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To think teacher was rude or aibu

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Pink115 · 22/07/2024 09:01

My DD (4) has beautifully curly hair. I put into a bobble most days at school. She has a different teacher every Friday to her usually teacher. At pick up time she had some dry grass or something in her hair as had been playing. The teacher went to get it out for her and I said thanks , she always gets little bits in it whilst playing outside and the teacher said ‘oh yeah, like a birds nest’ etc to think that is rude to say about her hair

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OolongTeaDrinker · 22/07/2024 09:53

And people wonder why teachers are leaving the profession in droves if this is the kind of inane parents they have to deal with. I have one curly haired kid and one with straight - they both get told their hair looks like a bird's nest when its a mess.

EmpressOfTheThread · 22/07/2024 09:54

It wasn't about her hair, @OolongTeaDrinker , but I agree with your points.

AzureAnt · 22/07/2024 09:55

I had thick wavy hair and My mother used to call it a birds nest
Is this your first child. OP? If so you need to toughen up a bit if that's what offends you

OolongTeaDrinker · 22/07/2024 09:56

EmpressOfTheThread · 22/07/2024 09:54

It wasn't about her hair, @OolongTeaDrinker , but I agree with your points.

I only mentioned it as the OP made a point of saying her child has curly hair - as if she was implying that the teacher possibly had some prejudice about curly haired people :)

onwardandupwards · 22/07/2024 09:56

Starlingexpress · 22/07/2024 09:08

Make a complaint and get her sacked. Go to the media and see if you can get an appearance on GMTV.
Clearly not fit to be a teacher. You should also start a petition and a gofundme.

😂

Teacherprebaby · 22/07/2024 09:57

Pink115 · 22/07/2024 09:01

My DD (4) has beautifully curly hair. I put into a bobble most days at school. She has a different teacher every Friday to her usually teacher. At pick up time she had some dry grass or something in her hair as had been playing. The teacher went to get it out for her and I said thanks , she always gets little bits in it whilst playing outside and the teacher said ‘oh yeah, like a birds nest’ etc to think that is rude to say about her hair

Oh FFS 🤷🏼‍♀️ rude?!? It's a meaningless comment.

EmpressOfTheThread · 22/07/2024 09:58

OolongTeaDrinker · 22/07/2024 09:56

I only mentioned it as the OP made a point of saying her child has curly hair - as if she was implying that the teacher possibly had some prejudice about curly haired people :)

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Oh right, I see! It's all so ridiculous.

temptingwheat · 22/07/2024 10:01

Bloody hell, what else do you get offended by?

Bird's nest sounds adorable in this context

Rufus27 · 22/07/2024 10:02

YABVU.

MultiplaLight · 22/07/2024 10:03

Starlingexpress · 22/07/2024 09:08

Make a complaint and get her sacked. Go to the media and see if you can get an appearance on GMTV.
Clearly not fit to be a teacher. You should also start a petition and a gofundme.

This
Most definitely do this.

JMSA · 22/07/2024 10:03

Runbunny · 22/07/2024 09:07

It's the sort of thing I'd say when I'm trying too hard to be friendly. And then spend the rest of the day kicking myself.

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Totally!

MorrisZapp · 22/07/2024 10:05

In my day it was 'straighten up Jones! You look like you've been through a bush backwards!' while everyone laughed. Ah, the before times.

JaxiiTaxii · 22/07/2024 10:07

She had sticks & grass in her hair.
Like a birds nest.

BiscuityBoyle · 22/07/2024 10:09

Complain to the head and get her sacked. Then next year complain that your child has be taught by a supply teacher all year as no fucker wants to be a teacher any more.

BeardyButton · 22/07/2024 10:10

I loved teaching. But I left. Threads like this are one of the reasons.

dollyboots · 22/07/2024 10:10

I have very curly hair. When I was teaching in Japan, one of the kids who usually wouldn’t speak English said, ‘Dolly Sensei - you have bird home on head.’ I was delighted and taught him the word ‘nest’.

I also literally got my curls caught in a low-hanging tree once and had to be rescued. It doesn’t get much more nest-like than that.

Please let her grow a thick skin along with her curls.

Pennyandolive · 22/07/2024 10:11

Poor teacher. YABU.

Lavenderfields121 · 22/07/2024 10:11

I hope that you logged it with the police. Just in case.

Hankunamatata · 22/07/2024 10:11

Runbunny · 22/07/2024 09:07

It's the sort of thing I'd say when I'm trying too hard to be friendly. And then spend the rest of the day kicking myself.

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This

GettingAroundTown · 22/07/2024 10:13

BiscuityBoyle · 22/07/2024 10:09

Complain to the head and get her sacked. Then next year complain that your child has be taught by a supply teacher all year as no fucker wants to be a teacher any more.

Yeah OP you completely deserve this.
Teach your lil darling at home if you're so precious.
I feel sorry for teachers the amount of crap they have to put up with.

Timeforanewnam · 22/07/2024 10:15

A public flogging of the evil teacher is the only way for her to atone for this terrible act

ns87 · 22/07/2024 10:18

GrandHighPoohbah · 22/07/2024 09:10

It's going to be a long decade for you if you dwell on every little remark at school.

This, 100%

Gall10 · 22/07/2024 10:18

Get a grip (and no, I don’t mean a hair grip)!

Jeschara · 22/07/2024 10:18

What a pathetic thing to get upset about. You really are looking to be offended.
I can't believe you even posted this. For your child's sake toughen up.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 22/07/2024 10:18

Starlingexpress · 22/07/2024 09:08

Make a complaint and get her sacked. Go to the media and see if you can get an appearance on GMTV.
Clearly not fit to be a teacher. You should also start a petition and a gofundme.

😆

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