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To think teacher was rude or aibu

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Pink115 · 22/07/2024 09:01

My DD (4) has beautifully curly hair. I put into a bobble most days at school. She has a different teacher every Friday to her usually teacher. At pick up time she had some dry grass or something in her hair as had been playing. The teacher went to get it out for her and I said thanks , she always gets little bits in it whilst playing outside and the teacher said ‘oh yeah, like a birds nest’ etc to think that is rude to say about her hair

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Livelovebehappy · 22/07/2024 09:23

Do you work? Have hobbies? Sounds like you have too much time on your hands, and on the warpath to find something to offend you to relieve the boredom. Must be exhausting to be so sensitive like this.

Willsean · 22/07/2024 09:23

Of course that isn't rude. You need to stop looking for problems with people who spend their time looking after and teaching your daughter.

ladymalfoy45 · 22/07/2024 09:25

Our 10 yo DD has curly hair. If she takes her scrunchie out it's more like a rats nest. And we use curl creme every morning.
Maybe the teacher has a child with similar hair and was speaking from experience.

Chickenuggetsticks · 22/07/2024 09:25

I’d find it funny and true of my DD, she’s always got sticks in her hair and her pockets. I honestly don’t know how thin skinned you would have to be to get offended by this. It’s pretty normal for small children to be scruffs.

MrHarleyQuin · 22/07/2024 09:26

It was a throwaway remark and I would not dwell on it, but yes it is quite rude.

Sunnyandsilly · 22/07/2024 09:27

MrHarleyQuin · 22/07/2024 09:26

It was a throwaway remark and I would not dwell on it, but yes it is quite rude.

It’s really not.

DiscoDragon · 22/07/2024 09:28

I wouldn't have taken that as rude, I've got curly hair too and it is like a birds nest! I pick up all sorts in there!

LadyWhistled0wn · 22/07/2024 09:28

Are you always this over sensitive?

Ellie1015 · 22/07/2024 09:28

Not rude in my opinion.

MrHarleyQuin · 22/07/2024 09:30

Sunnyandsilly · 22/07/2024 09:27

It’s really not.

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You'd really say "You hair is like a bird's nest" to a stranger?

What sort of reaction do you think you'd get to that?

Have you never been taught that it's rude to make adverse comments about someone's appearance?

tuvamoodyson · 22/07/2024 09:31

DappledThings · 22/07/2024 09:14

You forgot practicing appropriate sad face before making said GMTV appearance.

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Yes, a sad face and looking through a photo album at happier times….😢

Megifer · 22/07/2024 09:31

A while ago an ofsted inspector took them to a tribunal when he was sacked for touching a pupil.

His crime was playfully brushing rain off the top of a pupils head who had just come in from it pissing down outside, and the parent complained.

This thread reminds me of that case. Just a playful interaction turned into something it's not by a parent.

Mostlycarbon · 22/07/2024 09:33

For goodness' sake. The poor woman's got three days of term left. Find something else to be offended about.

AppleKatie · 22/07/2024 09:33

You'd really say "You hair is like a bird's nest" to a stranger?

no of course I wouldn’t. But then the teacher here isn’t a stranger!!

MrHarleyQuin · 22/07/2024 09:37

AppleKatie · 22/07/2024 09:33

You'd really say "You hair is like a bird's nest" to a stranger?

no of course I wouldn’t. But then the teacher here isn’t a stranger!!

She only teaches the DD on a Friday - quite possibly she has barely spoken to the OP or at least does not know her very well. Though I wouldn't even say to a close friend that their daughter had hair like a bird's nest.

Querty123456 · 22/07/2024 09:38

Blimey. And then in the next breath you’ll be complaining that your child is being taught by long term supply. Do you carefully consider and screen every single word which comes out your mouth?

Dis626 · 22/07/2024 09:39

YABVU! Completely overthinking it.

I really do feel sorry for teachers!

Willmafrockfit · 22/07/2024 09:40

not rude at all

wibblywobblywoo · 22/07/2024 09:40

MrHarleyQuin · 22/07/2024 09:30

You'd really say "You hair is like a bird's nest" to a stranger?

What sort of reaction do you think you'd get to that?

Have you never been taught that it's rude to make adverse comments about someone's appearance?

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But the teacher didn't say that did she 🙄

She was referencing the bits of twig and grass, not the child's hair.

By all means get annoyed about something but it seems pointless getting annoyed about something that didn't happen....

Once more for clarification, she. didn't. mean. the. hair.

EmpressOfTheThread · 22/07/2024 09:43

Oh my god, the poor teacher! A harmless remark but do launch a complaint and add to her stress.

Idtotallybangdreamoftheendlessnotgonnalie · 22/07/2024 09:45

Sort yourself out OP 🙄 teachers have enough shit to deal with without pandering to precious Ava-Grace's mummy's hurty fee-fees!

EmpressOfTheThread · 22/07/2024 09:46

ladymalfoy45 · 22/07/2024 09:25

Our 10 yo DD has curly hair. If she takes her scrunchie out it's more like a rats nest. And we use curl creme every morning.
Maybe the teacher has a child with similar hair and was speaking from experience.

It wasn't about the child's hair, she had bits of grass and twigs in it, so it looked like a bird's nest.

Unknownsecret · 22/07/2024 09:46
Biscuit
PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 22/07/2024 09:47

I’m a teacher.
I genuinely love it.
On its day, it is still the best job in the world.

It’s things like this that make it significantly harder than it needs to be

Dancingontheedge · 22/07/2024 09:52

Safer just not to talk to parents at all really, unless it’s a formal appointment or a transfer of specific information.
Bring on teacher bots.

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