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To think the hilarity just wasn’t necessary?

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 20:41

Was at my grandmas earlier with DD (9). My sister, her husband and their kids were there too. We were talking about history and I was absolutely fascinated by it (I love history, especially British history) and at one point I took myself outside into the garden to have a few minutes of thinking and reflection on what we’d been talking about.
DD came out to ask what I was doing and I said “just having a few minutes to reflect on what we’ve been chatting about”.

She went back inside and then I heard howls of laughter coming from the living room. DD had told them what I’d said and they were all in stitches over it. It really ruined my thoughts and I tried to get the topic back up and running but sister kept saying everyone was still reflecting - cue more hilarity.

was what I said really that bloody funny?? Pissed off but also a bit embarrassed 😞

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NervousSubject · 23/07/2024 07:18

MsAmerica · 23/07/2024 02:23

Well, apart from being embarrassed that some of your family members are so clueless and have apparently never wished to think about anything, no reason for you to feel bad.
You might want to talk to your daughter about it, though.
Maybe next time your sister asks you for a favor, you can haughtily tell her you'll relfect on it.

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Maybe they’re able to think about history while also being in a room with other people?

burnoutbabe · 23/07/2024 08:10

I assume they were just mocking the phase. Not the actual activity of thinking. It's just a pompous sounding phrase and then coming from a 9 year olds mouth sounds even more funny.

"Mums just having a quiet 5 minutes" wouldn't have led to any hilarity.

ThatTealViewer · 23/07/2024 10:05

XChrome · 23/07/2024 02:14

What a silly post. It's not an inability to hold a thought, it's that thoughts naturally tend to fade once you move on to talking about something else. You start to get interested in that subject instead. If you don't know that, you don't understand human nature. I can't help you with that.

Repeat; the shallowness comment was in reference to people who think stopping to reflect is weird and laughable.
Clearly, your comprehension is indeed lacking and you play silly gotcha! games to try to win an argument. You use personal attacks as well. I presume that's because you have no on point refutation and you haven't the guts or humility to admit it.
Perhaps you should take a moment to get the stick out which is crammed firmly up your ass? Just a suggestion.

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The delicious irony. Every word. 🤣

Your lack of self awareness is genuinely astounding. There’s really nothing else to be said.

MichaelAndEagle · 23/07/2024 10:59

burnoutbabe · 23/07/2024 08:10

I assume they were just mocking the phase. Not the actual activity of thinking. It's just a pompous sounding phrase and then coming from a 9 year olds mouth sounds even more funny.

"Mums just having a quiet 5 minutes" wouldn't have led to any hilarity.

This is what I think too. It was the phrase, especially out of the mouth of a child.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2024 12:48

MsAmerica · 23/07/2024 02:23

Well, apart from being embarrassed that some of your family members are so clueless and have apparently never wished to think about anything, no reason for you to feel bad.
You might want to talk to your daughter about it, though.
Maybe next time your sister asks you for a favor, you can haughtily tell her you'll relfect on it.

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@MsAmerica - where does the OP say that her family are clueless and have never wished to think about anything?

The fact that they found it funny that the OP had said she was sitting outside to reflect on the history conversation, makes them a bit mean - it doesn't mean they are ignorant, thick, shallow or unthinking, as some posters have stated.

Chusername · 23/07/2024 22:29

This is all so weird. Posters calling the op pretentious and pompous are completely missing the mark and coming at the situation from an NT perspective, while those calling her family toxic for laughing at something they found amusing in the moment are also overreacting.

It’s understandable that you were put out op, but it’s also understandable that your family found it funny. I wouldn’t be losing sleep over it.

MsAmerica · 24/07/2024 01:26

NervousSubject · 23/07/2024 07:18

Maybe they’re able to think about history while also being in a room with other people?

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Hm. Interesting. Studies tell us that there is really no such thing as good multi-tasking, so which is preferable: Sitting in a room full of people but clearly off in your own little world, or politely leaving the rooms to allow your thoughts free rein?
In my experience, if I really want to think about something seriously, and I know that if I don't do it right away, the ideas will vanish, I do stop whatever I'm doing to think. Personally, I believe that the more thinking people, the better - and I can't imagine mocking someone who wants to think.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/07/2024 11:21

There's a third option, I think, @MsAmerica - remain in the room and engage in the new topic of conversation, in the same way that others engaged in the conversation when it was your particular topic of interest - and save the deep thoughts for a later point.

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