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To think the hilarity just wasn’t necessary?

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 20:41

Was at my grandmas earlier with DD (9). My sister, her husband and their kids were there too. We were talking about history and I was absolutely fascinated by it (I love history, especially British history) and at one point I took myself outside into the garden to have a few minutes of thinking and reflection on what we’d been talking about.
DD came out to ask what I was doing and I said “just having a few minutes to reflect on what we’ve been chatting about”.

She went back inside and then I heard howls of laughter coming from the living room. DD had told them what I’d said and they were all in stitches over it. It really ruined my thoughts and I tried to get the topic back up and running but sister kept saying everyone was still reflecting - cue more hilarity.

was what I said really that bloody funny?? Pissed off but also a bit embarrassed 😞

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AnneLovesGilbert · 21/07/2024 21:02

You’ve got to tell us which bit of history it was.

HolyPeaches · 21/07/2024 21:02

MonsteraMama · 21/07/2024 20:58

Oh bless you, it's nice that you're so passionate and invested in the topic but you must realise that this is a very weird thing to do?

It's just a bit pompous and intense isn't it? If that's who you are absolutely own it, but also be prepared to be roasted for it a bit by your nearest and dearest. Everyone is weird in their own way, just own it!

OP, please ignore this patronising comment.

What you did, is not a weird thing to do at all. Nor is it pompous or intense.

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 21:04

We were talking about the medieval times and the Anglo Scottish wars.

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while so I simply said “I’m just popping outside for a minute”. What’s attention seeking about that?? The “reflection” thing was said to DD in private

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Tarantella6 · 21/07/2024 21:05

It is a bit earnest. I would have smirked, I admit. How deep was the conversation that you needed to reflect on it?! I suspect your dd was baffled, said it in a funny way and they were trying to reassure her that they weren't laughing at her.

KarenOnTour · 21/07/2024 21:06

It really isnt that big a deal, dont feel defensive op

Overtired345 · 21/07/2024 21:06

How....weird and intense of you. I'm afraid that is a very unusual reaction and will absolutely bring some eye rolls, if not laughter, in any normal circle

AzureAnt · 21/07/2024 21:07

Tbh OP it does come across as a bit pretentious and honestly if a sibling or a friend if mine said it I think I would struggle to keep a straight face 😑

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/07/2024 21:08

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while

Sorry Donny but that's weird.

itstheendoftheworldasweknowitnow · 21/07/2024 21:08

They can all get fucked. It’s not like you were screaming at the Sistine chapel, you were just having a wee think. Bullies.

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 21:09

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/07/2024 21:08

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while

Sorry Donny but that's weird.

Ok fair enough. I don’t understand why like

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CantSleepSweet · 21/07/2024 21:09

Usually people can compartmentalise topics they're really interested in from the need to dwell on them intensely right there and then. Are you someone who often has strong intense urges that have to be indulged immediately, or perhaps don't always follow social conventions? As others have said, it's not normal behaviour. But it's still mean for your family to laugh at you.

OriginalUsername2 · 21/07/2024 21:09

I feel bad for you! I think families over-laugh at things like this to bond.

I can see where they’re coming from, it is a bit funny in the sense that it’s a bit of a film / documentary cliche - “character stares thoughtfully into the distance contemplating the situation, hair blowing in the wind..”

itstheendoftheworldasweknowitnow · 21/07/2024 21:09

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/07/2024 21:08

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while

Sorry Donny but that's weird.

It’s ok to be weird, actually.
it’s not ok to mock people for it. Especially when they’re your family.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 21/07/2024 21:10

DonnySue · 21/07/2024 21:04

We were talking about the medieval times and the Anglo Scottish wars.

its my absolute favourite topic and I was dying to just go off and think about it by myself for a while so I simply said “I’m just popping outside for a minute”. What’s attention seeking about that?? The “reflection” thing was said to DD in private

You did absolutely nothing wrong.

Your family are bitchy.

My sister is like that which is why I hardly see her.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 21/07/2024 21:10

Bit pretentious I can see why they laughed

DappledThings · 21/07/2024 21:11

“I’m just popping outside for a minute”. What’s attention seeking about that??
Because it's highly unusual. I would have assumed you were upset so would have asked after you. If it turned out you weren't upset you just fancied a bit of a ponder and had deliberately left the conversation for that then yes, I would find that fairly attention seeking.

MonsteraMama · 21/07/2024 21:11

HolyPeaches · 21/07/2024 21:02

OP, please ignore this patronising comment.

What you did, is not a weird thing to do at all. Nor is it pompous or intense.

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Oh piss off, it absolutely is weird and the OP should just own her weirdness instead of pretending it's not a weird thing to do.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 21/07/2024 21:11

OriginalUsername2 · 21/07/2024 21:09

I feel bad for you! I think families over-laugh at things like this to bond.

I can see where they’re coming from, it is a bit funny in the sense that it’s a bit of a film / documentary cliche - “character stares thoughtfully into the distance contemplating the situation, hair blowing in the wind..”

There is bonding and there is bonding at someone else's expense.

The latter is nasty.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 21/07/2024 21:12

Its a bit of an intense thing to say to be honest OP. I probably would have just said I was just sitting quietly for a bit. BTW, how do you know that the laughing was about you?

IMustDoMoreExercise · 21/07/2024 21:12

Overtired345 · 21/07/2024 21:06

How....weird and intense of you. I'm afraid that is a very unusual reaction and will absolutely bring some eye rolls, if not laughter, in any normal circle

No, only in a bitchy nasty circle.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 21/07/2024 21:13

It's the dying to go off and think about that's odd.
Wanting to talk about it is normal, thinking about it on your own is normal, researching it is normal. What did you so desperately need to think about at that point? 🤷🏼‍♀️

BirthdayRainbow · 21/07/2024 21:13

I think your family sound immature and it's time for a conversation with your daughter about relating something someone has said to you to make fun of the speaker.

Beth216 · 21/07/2024 21:13

It sounds a bit pretentious, in my head it's already become 'I'm just taking some time to reflect on my astounding historical knowledge dahling, it's just fascinating you know.' If it was my sibling I'd by saying this in a very posh voice and laughing my head off. We banter a lot in our family though.

Try not to take yourself too seriously OP. It's just a bit of light hearted fun I'm sure. You should have just gone in and given a bow.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/07/2024 21:14

You just got up, mid conversation, and walked outside?

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DonnySue · 21/07/2024 21:14

Conversation was starting to drift, sister was trying to change the subject so I just wanted to sit by myself a bit to think about it whilst it was still fresh in my mind. It was nothing to do with seeking attention and when I said I was popping out for a minute I said it with a smile so nobody would think I had a face on

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