I just came out as GC at work, to the big boss and I feel a bit sick

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JustcameoutGC Thu 15-Apr-21 12:34:59

I have NCed for this. I have just outed myself as GC in work to the big boss (and some others cced in).

I was asked to sign off on something that I just couldn't and I said so, and explained why.

I literally feel sick. Like I have put a big fat GC target on my back. My org is totally woke. I wonder how many times my response has been forwarded already.

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Biscuitsanddoombar Thu 15-Apr-21 12:40:36

Handhold - you’ve done the right thing but I completely understand your fear xx

I hope you get a reply soon - the waiting is hardest

TheTamingOfTheresa Thu 15-Apr-21 12:41:11

Good for you

yeahbutnaw Thu 15-Apr-21 12:41:30

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HeeeeeyBogie Thu 15-Apr-21 12:42:24

Thank you on behalf of bottom rung employees for speaking up. I hope it goes well.

Leafstamp Thu 15-Apr-21 12:45:35

Well done OP, I’m sure whatever it was, many of us here would have done the same.

I hope you are treated with respect and understanding following this.


Chrysanthemum5 Thu 15-Apr-21 12:46:22

I have spoken up at work, even though I know it risks my job, because every time I do I get women coming up to me afterwards and thanking me. I'm more senior and they just don't feel able to openly talk about these issues.

FidgetWonkham Thu 15-Apr-21 12:46:30

Why does that stop you signing something off?

FidgetWonkham Thu 15-Apr-21 12:47:10

And what does GC mean?
Sorry for my ignorance!

malloo Thu 15-Apr-21 12:47:25

You've done the right thing, guaranteed there are others who agree with you who might now have the confidence to speak up.

sanluca Thu 15-Apr-21 12:47:43

What is it with companies nowadays that they feel compelled to control their employees? You get a service from me and in return you pay me a salary. You do not own me

Good on you, OP! I came out GC years ago, everyone knows and never heard anyone disagree to date.

aliasundercover Thu 15-Apr-21 12:48:53

Well done. I hope I’d be as brave.

Please keep us updated on what happens.

JustcameoutGC Thu 15-Apr-21 12:49:45

Response from big boss, Thanks good points (I suspect he may not totally understand that there is a Pandoras box lurking here)
Another colleague who in think understands the context totally supportive.

Silence from the ones I suspect will be in the other camp. One of them is a friend.

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MsFogi Thu 15-Apr-21 12:50:20

Well done OP, and thank you.

Shizuku Thu 15-Apr-21 12:50:29

When you say "GC", was it based on criticism of gender stereotypes? Or was it something to do with trans people? If it's the former, I'm sure you'll be fine. If it's the latter, you may lose your job.

Immunetypegoblin Thu 15-Apr-21 12:51:24

Well done OP - others might speak up now too.

HermioneWeasley Thu 15-Apr-21 12:51:40

Well done, that takes courage. Sounds like it’s gone well

MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously Thu 15-Apr-21 12:51:50

Well done. You really have been very brave because it's not easy to stand out and not toe the party line. But it's important - we all have our own line in the sand and our self respect matters x

transbadger Thu 15-Apr-21 12:52:57

Well done OP smiletbusmile

Wineat5isfine Thu 15-Apr-21 12:53:22

Apologies for my ignorance, but what is GC?

HavelockVetinari Thu 15-Apr-21 12:54:13

Well done. I did similar last year, thought it would go down horribly but turns out the director and the rest of the team agree that biology is not bigotry.

Leafstamp Thu 15-Apr-21 12:54:51


GC = gender critical

I’m guessing OP couldn’t sign off on something that was conflating sex and gender. In these instances there is often a contravention of the Equalities Act, so therefore should not be signed off on by anyone who wants to keep their job.

Of course, this is just my guess and if I was OP I’d be careful about giving out further details due to protecting my identity and confidentiality at work.

OhHolyJesus Thu 15-Apr-21 12:54:54

This is very brave and I hope as time goes on you are ok at work.

This is so very divisive and I really hope you are ok. No one should be compelled to do something they are uncomfortable with for the sake of keeping their job.

Take heart, you are not alone. Best to do it before more requests follow as well.

JustcameoutGC Thu 15-Apr-21 12:55:44

It wasn't even a personal line in the sand, it for me is about the lack of assessment and management of risk (actual and reputational) around use of language in materials that would have our logo on them.

I let my personal line in the sand get trampled over long ago.

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transbadger Thu 15-Apr-21 12:56:51


Badass Badger award for you both 🏆🏆


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