Anal sex

(325 Posts)
feelinghothothot Fri 03-Jul-15 22:53:08

Any real advice on how to enjoy this without biting the pillows? I've tried it a couple of times but I know dp would love to do it more. I'm also keen to get into it. Lube, toys - can someone steer me right?

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Fatstacks Fri 03-Jul-15 22:55:36

I think it's something that can become tolerable, but if you're not enjoying it fuck that life is too short.

InnocentWhenYouDream Fri 03-Jul-15 22:58:00

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InnocentWhenYouDream Fri 03-Jul-15 22:59:07

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Magicalmrmistofeles Fri 03-Jul-15 23:00:48

Honestly, you like it you don't. If you don't, life's too short. If you do carry on.

I don't think you can grow a liking for it!

Mamabird3 Fri 03-Jul-15 23:02:50

I agree with innocent, if you are using lots of lube and are ready etc then what you're experiencing is likely to be the best of what you'll get. Try to make sure he is gentle and takes his time etc... But I've tried it with dh, he is gentle and makes sure i am ready but I still get nothing from it. It isn't painful, but I don't enjoy it really. It's pretty much nothing to me in the grand scheme of sex and there's a lot i would rather do. He doesn't really ask because he knows I don't like it, but on extremely extremely rare occasions I will offer because I know he likes it, as a treat if you will blush

GinBunny Sat 04-Jul-15 01:37:15

Sorry to be blunt, but IME anal is more pleasurable it the guy is small. I've enjoyed it in the past but also hated it too. Size matters in this case blush


shitebag Sat 04-Jul-15 01:45:04

You could try different positions, on the few occasions we've done it I found it more pleasurable to be on top as it meant I was in control and could take it at my pace.

In the end though we agreed that neither of us are really into it.

AlpacaLypse Sat 04-Jul-15 01:55:08

I have a feeling that anal is one of the things that bog standard porn says women and men ought to be enjoying, but that in actual fact not everyone actually likes very much.

My own experiences of it was that it bloody well hurt and the second time it bloody well hurt even more. Despite tons of lube.

ScooseIsLoose Sat 04-Jul-15 02:00:12

It's an exit not an entrance sorry tried it didn't like it too sore so never again

velouria Sat 04-Jul-15 02:03:53

I tried it once, we were both very drunk, it went in etc fine. Wasn't particularily enjoyable tbh, Feel no need to try again, so ime get blind drunk and shove it up lol

NoMoreParades Sat 04-Jul-15 02:35:30

It is actually possible to enjoy anal sex, and orgasm from it. I could have written this post a year ago; disliked anal sex found it painful and a bit degrading. But had a revelation with my new partner that it could actually be fantastic!
Try lying on your back with a pillow under your bottom and your legs up resting on his shoulders. Get him to go in slow and when there do shallow thrusts where he's not pulling out too much; if it's deep enough you should feel it on your gspot. Add clitoral stimulation and voila, serious orgasm potential!
Make sure you're mentally up for it though and get the muscles relaxed by getting him to use his finger a fair bit first.

zippey Sat 04-Jul-15 03:04:44

Have you tried anal sex on him with a dildo or vibrator? Seam only fair for him to experience the pleasure.

BathshebaDarkstone Sat 04-Jul-15 03:53:56

What Innocent said.

AcrossthePond55 Sat 04-Jul-15 04:16:13

We tried it, I didn't like it as it hurt. DH kept bugging so suggested to him what Zippy suggested so he could see why I was balking. DH didn't like it either and he hasn't bothered me about it since.

AmIbeingTreasonable Sat 04-Jul-15 04:51:26

I always think that the guys who are keen for this should be on the receiving end first, that would sort out the men from the boys, so to speak grin

WelcometotheMH Sat 04-Jul-15 06:14:45

Totally agree with you GinBunny. The only reason I like it with DH is because he is not exactly well endowed. blush

feelinghothothot Sat 04-Jul-15 06:38:14

Thanks for this. I imagined that it was far more widely enjoyed than the feedback on these posts so thought there was a big secret that I didn't know! To be frank, I haven't tried the loads of lube thing - which I'm guessing is actually the only trick I'm missing!

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UnknownMoniker Sat 04-Jul-15 06:47:59

It's all in the prep, I find it very pleasurable sometimes and painful others.

we started using a butt plug, I really never thought anal would be so pleasurable.

Leave the butt plug in for a bit whilst you do other things, it is quite strange but horny feeling. Then have him take it out gently, add some more lube and fingers then gentle and slow entry of his penis.

So Lots of lube, a small butt plug, very slow gentle entry, try to relax and not tense, it's painful when you can't relax. Try different positions.

Aridane Sat 04-Jul-15 07:28:22

OP - lube is absolutely essential - don't even go,there without loads of lube

Redglitter Sat 04-Jul-15 11:29:11

We actually found the lube was a disaster. I think I'm much more relaxed about it now and we don't use any and it seems far easier blush

gatewalker Sat 04-Jul-15 11:32:21

Redglitter - You're in dangerous territory not using lube. Seriously.

NoMoreParades Sat 04-Jul-15 12:51:58

Another non-Lube user here, honestly don't need it. Sorry that sounds slightly smug, not meant to be.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers Sat 04-Jul-15 12:57:45

If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. But if you think you might like it, then the important things are 1- condom 2- more lube than you can imagine being necessary 3- he goes extremely slowly and doesn't thrust at all
If those rules are stuck to it can be great.

flanjabelle Sat 04-Jul-15 12:57:56

To me it just felt like doing a massive poo, that kept going back in. Not sexy at all. I must be missing something..

Dp is rather blessed though, so perhaps it wasn't the best idea.

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