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Cancelled date 30 minutes before..feel like crying

(266 Posts)
Poppa445 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:26:10

Been texting for 3 weeks ...
Arranged to meet today for a drink at quarter 2.
I got the train to his city (50 min train)
Literally got off the train and he has text
“My dad has been taken in hospital,can we re arrange?”
£18 train and 50 min journey
Feel like crying

Cricrichan Sun 22-Apr-18 13:27:55

I'm.sorry but if it's true then completely.understandable. If true then when you arrange another date, get him to come to.your town

LemonadePockets Sun 22-Apr-18 13:27:58

Didn’t want to read and run. I just hope he’s genuine in his reason as you’ve travelled. Next time make him come to you x

Alienspaceship Sun 22-Apr-18 13:28:42

Wanker. Do not reply. Block. Take yourself to a nice cafe/pub and enjoy a couple of hours to yourself.

Pigpigpig Sun 22-Apr-18 13:29:21

unhelpful but in future make sure it’s the guy that travels. flowers do some shopping and get a nice coffee somewhere with what you would hace spent.

QueenofSerene Sun 22-Apr-18 13:29:29

Well that sucks, can you message him back and say something like 'Well I'm at XYZ, do you want to meet to talk about it?'

Shitshitshitty Sun 22-Apr-18 13:31:28

It's always hospital isn't it?
Scammers and time wasters love that line.

Then when you voice your annoyance they turn it round so you're the bad guy because theybcant help being in hospital! when you know damn well they are at home watching Tipping Point

Block and never talk again.

Rudgie47 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:33:23

His is lying,block and have nothing further to do with them. Just go round the shops or for a few drinks/coffees whatever by yourself. You might meet someone better round town anyway.

JesusTapdancingChrist Sun 22-Apr-18 13:33:35

I guarantee you there's absolutely nothing wrong with his dad hmm. He just lost interest/chickened out.

Do not reply. Block his number. Go home. Be sad/pissed off about your wasted time and money but be glad that you didn't waste any more time on a flakey twunt.

And don't travel to meet a first date again.

Storm4star Sun 22-Apr-18 13:33:48

I’m really sorry this has happened to you, its shit.

If you feel you want to give him another chance (we don’t know him so we don’t know if it’s a lie or the truth) no more texting. Too many people just see it as words on a screen with no human being behind them. That’s why they find it so easy to then casually text “sorry can’t make it”.

I agree with lemonade, if you are going to give him one more chance then he can travel to you next time.

Shitshitshitty Sun 22-Apr-18 13:34:13

PS. I had one of these. A woman who messed me about for about 6 weeks over meeting. Last straw was me sat on a bus on way to a pub to meet her and suddenly her mum ' was taken into hospital' hmm (this is after 10 other excuses of previous meetings she arranged then cancelled)

I told her what for and never spoke to her again.

4 weeks later I met my now GF of a year.
So just move on.

Poppa445 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:50:03

He’s just text saying
Actually I need to get my daughter some new shoes for tomorrow so I will have to pop into town.
See you in 15 mins ???
Eh ??

Bluntness100 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:51:44

Tell him to fuck off.

colditz Sun 22-Apr-18 13:53:59

Um, so he takes his school aged daughter on dates?

RED FLAG RED FLAG

colditz Sun 22-Apr-18 13:54:25

i'D BE ASKING WHERE HIS WIFE WAS

RLOU88 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:54:37

The audacity shock yes please tell him to kindly fuck off

privateporcupine Sun 22-Apr-18 13:55:16

“Nah, count me out”.

Luckyme2 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:55:22

was about to say it was probably a lie but that last text actually makes it sound like it could have been a genuine reason?

Luckyme2 Sun 22-Apr-18 13:56:14

Ha ha reading the other posts though I'm probably just naive! So may be best not to listen to me OP!

minimalpatience Sun 22-Apr-18 13:57:43

Probably had 2 dates lined up and he didn't mean to send you the initial cancellation text.

SingSongSing Sun 22-Apr-18 13:58:02

Don't reply.

Block.

What an idiot.

re. dating in future. Suggest you always say you will call or text on the day to confirm. Sometimes people are idiots like that chap. Sometimes people have shaky self-esteem and can't go through with it but you will need to know in advance that they can defo make it.

Best of luck.

PeonyTruffle Sun 22-Apr-18 14:01:01

OP, I really hope you told him to poke it

You’re better than this x

privateporcupine Sun 22-Apr-18 14:01:57

I’d have given him the benefit of the doubt until the one about the shoes.

What had you replied in between his messages?

Cricrichan Sun 22-Apr-18 14:04:19

Wtf? Definitely lying then!

Poppa445 Sun 22-Apr-18 14:04:39

I just said ok we can re arrange and now he has text saying I’m 5 mins away
Might as well meet him and spend an hour with him

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