Hold me back people.... how can I refuse this...

[isthismylifenow]

I know I am posting in relationships, it certainly isn't regarding a relationship, but just an example of what shit I have to deal with these days being recently single...

This is because every married man (note, friends of mine so I am friends with their wives too) seems to think I am so bloody desperate that they need to 'offer their services'.

Go out for the evening with bunch of friends.

Get home to get a message from one of the husbands saying I looked great that night..... He has something to tell me, I should take it as a compliment although he is a bit shy to tell me. Cue me getting uncomfortable, so I reply, 'no thanks I don't want to know.'
Next day I get a message saying he has to tell me, I need my confidence boosting and continues with a message saying:

I had two erections last night. Once when you arrived and once while you were dancing. You shouldn't look down at yourself like you do. You should appreciate yourself. Just letting you know as I am your friend.'

WTAF!!!

My reply "don't message me again".

Fucking arsehole!

Fucks sakes, how can anybody take that as a compliment anyway. Makes me feel sick.

[oleoleoleole]

Send it to his DP!

[Nellyphants]

You're just playing hard to get aren't you? You little vixen, you know you want to!!

[isthismylifenow]

We I know he is just such a charmer isn't he.....

Oleo, nope I couldn't do that do my friend. His wife, yes she is one of my closest friends. Dickhead.

[isthismylifenow]

Nelly

[isthismylifenow]

I should add in here, that I haven't heard the word 'erection' used for quite a while....

I mean its a bit old fashioned now isn't it. Past experiences of unwanted attention have included words like, boner and wood.

Fucksakes.

If I don't laugh about it, the rage will reappear.....

[ShotsFired]

Excuse me while I faint at such a romantic and welcomed message - "you gave me two boners"

Next time you see him ask him (in front of his wife) if he's considered writing greetings cards for Hallmark.

[Somerville]

How could you not tell one of your closest friends that her husband is betraying her?? If he's saying stuff like that to you, he's also saying it other women.

[Isetan]

Of course it wasn't a compliment and never was meant as one, it was a fishing exercise (opportunist fucker). If there's a next time, tell him that sleazy duplicity isn't a tun on and if he ever sends even the remotest of sleazy vibes your way again, you will tell/ show the SMS's to his wife.

I really couldn't stomach being in the same postcode as these fuckwits, let alone the same room.

[UnbornMortificado]

What a dog he is

Who the fuck thinks that kind of shit is acceptable? His poor wife and poor you having to listen to such shit.

[Taylor22]

A real friend would have the balls to tell their friend that her husband is a creep.

You have to tell her!

[Isetan]

There's a running gag in The Big Nang Theory where hunting for women with low self esteem is seen as a legitimate tactic to get laid. Unfortunately, there are some men out there who really do think that penises are a recognised treatment for female low confidence. Twats.

[ChuckDaffodils]

I would definitely forward this to her asking if she knows he behaves this way towards her friends who have already expressed that they are not interested in their comments let alone this drivel.

[Nellyphants]

That's it Weare, he's business propositioning you OP, that or he thinks you can't resist his man meat

[isthismylifenow]

Taylor

I am a real friend.... but he has put me in a terrible predicament.

[DrScholl]

I Must be old. I don't have the mobile no of my mates husbands.

[Isetan]

I probably wouldn't like knowing it but I would definitely like to know if my H was hitting on my friends. With these types, they will keep casting off in the hopes of getting a bite.

[isthismylifenow]

WeAre

He is a builder too...

[DrScholl]

Of course you don't tell her. It's him who sent it. You'll be there to pick up the pieces. Block his no

[OnionKnight]

Urgh.

Forward the message to your friend.

[Meowstro]

There is no predicament, show her the proof. You've done nothing wrong but if he messaging you, her friend, who else is he messaging on the side?

[isthismylifenow]

DrS I didn't go out and ask for his number if that is what you are implying. We are on a whatsapp group for our dc sport club. I didn't even ask how he got my number as I know its from there.

Its not my fault he has access to my number and messaged me! I hardly encouraged the guy. FFS.

[yorkshirepuddingandroastbeef]

"If you message me again I'll tell your wife..."

Ugh! I'm sure you are lovely but this is about him and not you. I was single in my 30s and can't tell you how many men approached me in the office. All older and all married a while.

[Somerville]

When he realised that you're not interested and repulsed, chances are he will start telling her, and maybe men in the wider friendship circle, that you've been flirting with him. (Attack is the best defence, and all that.)

Ususally in these situations there is no evidence that the man is the sleeve, and the woman he has 'propositioned' ends up losing friends and reputation over it, whether she tells or no.

But you have evidence: I wouldn't think twice about telling his wife.