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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

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Brenna24 Tue 26-Sep-17 16:52:40

Ready. Steady. Go

Doublechocolatetiffin Tue 26-Sep-17 17:00:18

Thank you for the new thread @Brenna24. How did it go yesterday?

AmyB1986 Tue 26-Sep-17 17:16:12

Thanks for the new thread @Brenna24. Hope your scan went well yesterday.

Hope everyone else is ok too 😊

peachgreen Tue 26-Sep-17 17:16:33

Thanks for the new thread Brenna. Bit of a tough day for me today. Not much movement (though am only 23 weeks so officially nothing to worry about, but I can’t help it) and a scare over bleeding (had actually cut myself shaving).

And can’t stop thinking about Miami. sad

Ekphrasis Tue 26-Sep-17 17:19:35

Thanks Brenna. I did wonder if it was a good idea to start a new thread.

Ekphrasis Tue 26-Sep-17 17:21:23

And yes how was your scan?

Peach, perhaps consider a check up tomorrow if things are still quiet?

A bit of nausea crept back today. Breasts still excruciating and no spotting. Feeling more hopeful!

Ekphrasis Tue 26-Sep-17 17:21:56

I've thought about Miami all day too. I wish I could send a card or something.

AnUtterIdiot Tue 26-Sep-17 17:24:36

@Peach Movements for me were still erratic until around 26 weeks. I got them every day but I would hesitate to say that there was a discernible pattern. If in doubt, go in, obviously. But I have been worrying about movements constantly and they only really became regular/pronounced this week (27).

I can't stop thinking about Miami either. I sent her a message and left one on the previous thread.

AnUtterIdiot Tue 26-Sep-17 17:24:55

Thanks for the new thread, @Brenna

itsgoingtoofast Tue 26-Sep-17 17:33:31

Thanks for the new thread Brenna

I can't stop thinking about Miami too. I hope she has lots of people looking after her

How did your scan go yesterday MsJ?

I'm going to book in for a private scan at 16 weeks I've decided. Cheapest one I can find that has good reviews is £35 for a gender scan so will just go for that I think. Not too bothered about finding out gender so early (a bit concerned about how accurate it would be!) but just want to see baby wriggling around in there. 8 weeks is far too long for me to cope without a scan!

whyhastherumgone Tue 26-Sep-17 17:58:28

Thanks for the thread @Brenna
Another one who can't stop thinking about Miami. It's really shaken me - it's so so unfair, and I am so so devastated for her, i wish there was something we could do. Hope she has lots of support around her.

Feels weird and almost inappropriate to post good news so I will keep it brief - our harmony test came back all low risk.

Sorry you've had a scare @peachgreen hope you're okay now and if you're still worried go I would go in for a check up too.

theotherendofthesockportal Tue 26-Sep-17 18:02:10

@peachgreen I went in at 23 weeks as I hadn't felt movements for over 12 hours. The midwives were lovely about it and said they would rather see us multiple times at the hospital rather than have us worrying at home.

I'm another one who can't stop thinking about Miami, her news shocked me to the core. I hope she has as much support in real life as she does here.

AmyB1986 Tue 26-Sep-17 18:18:22

Another who can’t stop thinking about Miami also. I was awake all night after having some major flash backs and remembering the immense hole left in my heart after my twins were born. I really do send my greatest sympathy to Miami and her family.
Life is so cruel!

@peachgreen movement for me was really sporadic until 30 weeks and muted because of my placenta being anterior. My mw told me to go in if there was even the slightest change in movement.
I was considering going in a few days ago as babys movement pattern had changed. She had a couple of sleepy days but has been super active today which I’m pleased about as now I’m having my own horrible thoughts that I’m still not going to get my baby in 2 weeks time.

AnUtterIdiot Tue 26-Sep-17 19:03:05

I did hear both heartbeats at the midwife's yesterday. Having a scan (and GTT) next week. Constantly anxious about gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia but my urine and bp were fine yesterday (had a particular angst about them because my ankles are starting to swell, but midwife says this is normal).

AnUtterIdiot Tue 26-Sep-17 19:04:04

@rum I'm glad you came back low risk on Harmony!

Ekphrasis Tue 26-Sep-17 19:30:18

rum that's great news! And sounds positive anutter.

peachgreen Tue 26-Sep-17 19:44:49

@whyhastherumgone So glad all came back okay - that’s wonderful news.

Thank you all for the reassurance, you’re all so wonderful. I’m going to have a bath as often that kickstarts her wriggling. Then might call the midwives if still nothing. Argh, it’s horrible.

whyhastherumgone Tue 26-Sep-17 19:45:21

Thank you, we also found out we are having a boy smile so been quite a week.

Hope the next two weeks are full of baby movement and go smoothly for you @amyb I think it's only natural that such awful, awful news would stop us all in our tracks and, along with our devastation for miami, also give us a bit of a wobble.

whyhastherumgone Tue 26-Sep-17 19:48:41

Gosh reading that back, I hope it didn't come across as insensitive to miami, not at all what I intended - so hard to articulate these things!

MsJuniper Tue 26-Sep-17 20:57:47

Hi all,

I feel the same way as all of you about Miami. It is so horribly unfair to see one of our group suffer in this way. Rum I know exactly what you meant and it didn't come across as insensitive. This is a safe space for all of us to express our hopes and fears. We have all had losses and we have some understanding of the feelings involved, so to think of that happening at such a late stage is going to reach deep into us. Our shock and upset right now is nothing compared to Miami's of course.

My update: the scan went well. Still a 3 April due date. NT was 2mm which they were happy with. Blood test done; I'll get a call within 5 days if they find a problem.

Brenna24 Tue 26-Sep-17 21:00:25

I hope all is well Peach.

I also hope the last two weeks go smoothly Amy. So close now.

MsJuniper Tue 26-Sep-17 21:00:26

I just saw Miami's most recent post on the old thread. What an extraordinarily generous spirit.

whyhastherumgone Tue 26-Sep-17 21:12:08

You articulated it better than I could @mrsjuniper

Glad scan and NT was okay smile

peachgreen Tue 26-Sep-17 21:27:13

Thanks everyone. After a stressed afternoon/evening of eating sugar, drinking cold drinks, lying on my side etc etc I told DH that as a last resort I was going to get into bed and if she didn’t move I’d call the midwife. As soon as I pulled up the covers she started wriggling away. Thank God. Thank you all for your support and reassurance this evening. Silly of me to worry really but as PPs have said, we’ll all be more sensitive right now.

I’m just so heartbroken for Miami. It’s unfair for this to happen to anyone but to happen to someone with a previous loss just seems so cruel. Will be praying her and her family, and for all of you brave ladies tonight (unless prayer isn’t your thing in which case I’ll be sending you warm and positive thoughts).

whyhastherumgone Tue 26-Sep-17 21:34:00

ah what a relief @peachgreen hope you can get some sleep tonight now smile x

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