Hi all, wanted some feedback on my midwife appointment today to check if i'm being sensitive (I'm 37 weeks so it's possible!)
I was told to bring in a birth plan for this appointment so I typed up some notes about my ideal situation, and stated very clearly that I KNOW my plan is a best case scenario and I understand things may not go the way i want on the day. I'm very open to pain relief if I need it and have no problem taking something to help me through - i just don't know what to expect or what it will be like.
I've been REALLY trying to be positive about the birth even though I obviously have natural fears and its my first one.
I kind of got the feeling the midwife was smirking at the plan - even though I kept saying, i know things may not go the way i want.
The plan mentions Hypnobirthing and I ask for support in using breathing techniques to try and get through.
I also said that unless necessary i'd prefer not to use forceps or ventouse - understanding i might have to so will be open to it.
The midwife was very adamant that they may well have to use these in case theres a danger to the baby - she kept talking about the baby's heart rate. I get that she's right and of course I'll do whats best for the baby - but i can't understand why she'd phrase it the way she did given we don't know what will happen. She made it sound like they definitely will be using forceps / ventouse.
Then she said that once I'm 10cm, they would expect the birth to be done in 2 hours. I feel like thats a bit rushed, and made me feel worried that if i'm not done in 2 hours then they will pressure me to use forceps or other things to quicken the process.
I've never heard a time limit like this before - have you?
Then, lastly we talked about episiotomy which I've said - i'd prefer not to but if necessary then I'd have to. She said that it sometimes helps to do the cut as you may tear anyway, and it may be likely we'd do that.
I understand she has to be realistic, and I am really being realistic too, i just feel like a lot of what she said is based on the worst case, but she was talking as if these things WILL happen. They may well do, just felt a bit like i was made to feel scared instead of reassured.
anyone else had similar experience? Shall i stop worrying given that no one knows what will happen?
thanks in advance.
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user1465146157 · 09/01/2017 19:26
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