Our rainbows are here - pregnancy after miscarriage or loss graduates

[Labmum]

Welcome ladies from the fresh start for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss thread.

Post-natal support group so we can all keep in touch after our rainbows have arrived!

Brief background from me;
March '15 - MMC at 12 weeks
May '16 - DS born
Oct '17 - MMC at 10 weeks
April '17 - MMC at 11 weeks
Jan '18 DD born

DD is now 3 weeks old and a little poppet. We're both doing great and I'm loving my squishy newborn cuddles even in the middle of the night.

Can't wait to see more of the ladies from the pregnancy after loss thread here! Bring on the rainbows!

[Smurf123]

Can i join?
Sept 16 - mmc at 10 weeks stopped growing at 6weeks 4 days
Dec 16 - miscarriage at 5 weeks
March 17 - mmc at 7 weeks
March 18 - ds born

Ds is almost a year old, teething and currently throwing food round the place rather than eating it and he has just learnt to wave

[keeponrunning85]

Also jumping on.

Here's my background:
Miscarriage July 15
Miscarriage Jan 16
Miscarriage Dec 16
Miscarriage April 17
Surgery to remove a uterine septum Oct 17
DD born August 18

DD is 6 months and I'm not quite sure where the time has gone! I'm loving watching her become more of a little person every day and she is currently a big fan of blowing raspberries!

[keeponrunning85]

Oh and thanks Labmum for sorting out the thread. I had the intention to but somehow never seemed to manage to get around to it.

[Paranormalbouquet]

Joining in!

EMCS DD1 2014
MC 6 weeks July 2017
MC 6 weeks Sept 2017
Short cervix discovered October 2017
MMC 10weeks Jan 2018
DD2 born Dec 2018, stitch inserted at 11 weeks

[Paranormalbouquet]

Posted too soon-DD2 11 weeks, sleeping well and smiling all around. Keep can’t believe yours is 6 months already, time really flies.

[FoxtrotSkarloey]

How lovely to see so many familiar names and hopefully more to join us! My background

MMC Jan '17 at 10 weeks
MC July '17 at 10 weeks
DS born July '18

[keeponrunning85]

How is everyone getting on with their rainbows?

DD has been a bit under the weather the past few days but I think we're through the worst of it now. She's not been too impressed with my attempts to pick the crusty snot off her nose

[Paranormalbouquet]

Mine is snotty too, perils of a winter baby! She’s in good form though, when I’m not trying to desnot her!

[Labmum]

Poor DD is also full of cold here. DS had it a week ago, it's a strange virus thats also given them gunky eyes for a couple of days. With DS when the snot ended a cough started a few days later so I'm not looking forward to that bit.....she's only 4 weeks so can't have anything it's made her more sicky than normal! Joy!

[Smurf123]

Ds also has the virus that has been going round and he is teething. I think we are starting to come out the other end though as he is eating a little bit more again and was only up twice last night (as opposed to every hour)

[MogScratch]

Hello. I didn't ever join the pregnancy thread, but I stayed far too long on the multiple miscarriage thread instead and recognise a few of you from there.

Thought I'd say hi and give a little update. I had a DD who is now 9 months and is a total sweetie. Very relaxed and tolerant of her older brother and totally devoted to him. She doesn't like sleeping much, so we are still up all through the night, but I'm coping OK and not feeling too tired. Glad I'm still off work though, so I can have some relaxing days when sleep has been especially bad.

[keeponrunning85]

Hi Mog. I recognise your name from the multiple miscarriage thread.

What is it with these little people not wanting to sleep?! DD is a big fan of having an early morning party for an hour or two around 4am. And we keep attempting and failing to stop swaddling her.

[MogScratch]

I find being woken up for couple hours hard, I never know whether to accept it and get up for a bit or persist in trying to get her back to sleep. Dd normally wakes up frequent but for short time though. I sort of assumed more sleep would come naturally as she developed, but it has not yet happened. I've never learnt to swaddle, but I think I'd like it as a baby - I like having a weight of duvets on me sleeping.

[Labmum]

@keepon my DS had a really strong startle reflex so loved being swaddled and would shut his eyes as soon as he was wrapped up but got to a point where he was breaking out and waking himself up multiple times in the night so we had to just bite the bullet at about 4 months.
DD likes to have her arms up by her head to sleep and doesn't have a strong startle reflex so we haven't swaddled her, we use a sleepyhead with her at the moment.

Nice to see do many people finding their way to the thread! These prescious little sleep thiefs keep us on our toes don't they?!

[keeponrunning85]

She has always been in zip up swaddles so no chance of breaking free and now I think she just loves it. I keep trying her with one arm out and she manages a few hours but definitely wakes more frequently. I've just ordered a new one which is looser so we'll have to see how we get on with that. When we started I never thought we would still be swaddling her at this point.

Labmum how long did it take your DS to get used to not being swaddled?

[Labmum]

@keepon oh the zip up one's sound fab! He'd probably still be in one now if we'd had one of those! Haha!

I think it took a good week or two but we were in the throes of the 4month sleep regression so he was waking frequently anyways so we didn't really notice a huge difference.

[keeponrunning85]

I think at this right we're going to be swaddling her when she's 18!

We've decided to be bold (stupid) and put her in her cot in her room for the first time tonight with both her arms out of the swaddle. I think out of curiosity rather than an expectation that it will work! And I have ordered a new looser swaddle bag thing that will hopefully arrive tomorrow.

[MogScratch]

@keepon how did it go?

We will have to keep DD in our room for a while I think, because of how often she wakes and I'd like her to share with DS, which feels a long way off. Hope we are not causing the wake ups though.

[keeponrunning85]

Badly Mog! Couldn't even get her to go to sleep in the first place! All we achieved was making the whole bedtime process take over an hour longer than normal. And then last night she woke every hour pretty much and was awake for an hour and 45 mins from 1am. She made up for it with a 3 hour nap today.

We shall see what tonight brings!

[Paranormalbouquet]

Hi all! I’ve never been adept enough at swaddling to make a child dependent on it so no advice keep but hope it goes well! I do find that any change to sleeping routine takes a few days to implement,

12 weeks old now and the hair shedding has started. There is hair everywhere.

[Labmum]

@paranormal you have my sympathies. I had it really bad with DS, DSs hair all fell out too so he was totally bald (the poor dog really suffered from the hair everywhere too 😳).
Really not looking forward to that stage this time!

Also no skill in swaddling here, I bought a swaddle bag type thing that did up with Velcro haha! DD is happily straight into sleeping bags though.

DD is 5.5 weeks now and we've not had a poo for 3 days so not looking forward to that finally making an appearance. You just know it'll be in one of the couple of hours in a 24hr day that we're out of the house too!

[PineapplePrincess]

Hi guys, can I please join...?

Four previous miscarriages:

MC1 - Feb 2017 (10wks)
CP - May 2017 (4wks)
MC3 - Oct 2017 (7wks)
MC4 - May 2018 (10wks)

Currently have DS5 and have just welcomed another little boy at the end of February at 37wks, following a fairly bumpy pregnancy and being pretty unwell in the lead-up to the birth.

Got home from hospital on Friday last week, readmitted this week due to severe jaundice. Baby has been on photo therapy for last two days and have narrowly avoided transfusion.

Feeling very emotional after the roller-coaster of the last two years and the last few days/weeks. Thankful that baby is here in one piece, but still terrified that something will go wrong.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Hey you lot! mog! Long time since I’ve seen you around love.

Just marking my place, hope that’s okay.

39+1 and feel like things are ramping up. Loads of Braxton Hicks, back ache and period pain, bump has dropped loads, but still v breathless and heartburny so not sure.

Will hope to join you properly soon.

[keeponrunning85]

Anne you got me all excited there! Can't wait to hear about your arrival. I hope you're enjoying your mat leave.

Welcome Pineapple and congratulations on the arrival of your DS. I hope his jaundice is sorted soon and you can make it home. It is such an emotional rollercoaster. I have found that with time my anxiety that something was going to happen to DD has gradually lessened. I hope you find the same.

DD has been poorly this week so I'm feeling even more sleep deprived after some rough nights. She seems to be over the worst of it now bless her.

[Labmum]

@keepon I hope your DD is better and you can catch up on some sleep soon.

DD is now 5.5weeks and hasn't not pooped for 5 days. She's trumping lots and it STINKS of rotten eggs. The not pooping doesn't bother me but the smell I'm a bit concerned about as I never had it with DS. Has anyone else had this?