Went to stay with some friends. They have a very - ahem - liberal approach to parenting. As in, no boundaries, no rules, no 'no's. They have a 9 year old daughter. We were all staying in their house (bungalow) and chatting in the kitchen /dining room in the evening (as my kids were sleeping in the living room).
Their daughter refuses to shut her bedroom door, but would repeatedly come into the kitchen area yelling 'shut up shut up shut up' as she couldn't sleep. At which point we'd all have to whisper/be quiet until she fell asleep, or if this did not work and she awoke again and came in yelling shut up, the parents said to just ignore her.
I felt really uncomfortable with having a nine year old telling me to shut up, so much so that at one point I said I'd go into the garden to be able to chat with DH, and did in fact end up in the garden to get away from the situation as it was really bothering me.
I know everyone has the right to bring up their child however they wish but when this involves said child being rude to guests, are you allowed to say something?
For me, it is the height of rudeness for a child to speak to a guest like this and I'd be mortified beyond belief if my children ever did this. Also, i feel sorry for the child. She's being taught that the way to get things resolved is to throw your weight around, rather than say 'excuse me, I'm finding it difficult to sleep would you mind being quieter' or whatever.
I didn't say anything at the time but have resolved never to stay with said friend again. But would you have said something to the child, or the parents, in this situation?
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Should i have said something? Friend's child repeatedly telling me to shut up
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maggiethemagpie · 30/08/2016 09:08
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