Hi,
Is it unreasonable for me to expect my ex be paying me child maintenance?
Have 60/40 custody agreement in place with ex, I recieve child benefit and uc for our 2 children.
He pays no child maintenance as he says I get all the benefits. He has paid 50% school uniform in 2020, does not buy any clothes for the children in fact tells me when he is "low" on certain clothing at his house. All school trips, fundraising donations, fancy dress outfits for school days etc are provided by me. During lockdown he took no interest in their homeschooling, extra equipment needed I bought ie laptop, printer ink etc
I've stepped down from a well paid job as his hours made my job difficult (his shift patterns changed each time he changed jobs (4 in a year) meaning I had to negotiate my days again with my boss).
I did all the kids laundry during lockdown. Not once did he ask if I was ok for money during lockdown (he worked through it all, I was on furlough).
I will quite often need to collect or drop off the kids when the weather is bad.
When we 1st separated, I put a claim in with cms and he hit the roof, made me feel bad that he wouldn't be able to afford to live close by and the kids would suffer finacially if I didn't stop the claim. I stopped it but he's never offered any money towards anything for the kids off his own back.
Am I being unreasonable? He seems to have a lovely bachelor life, gets 2 clean, tidy children delivered to him every few days and he returns them in clothes that are too small/stained and not worry about them at all until the next time he sees them?
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Koyto · 11/04/2021 22:00
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Bobcatbob ·
11/04/2021 23:51
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