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Paeodophile next door

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Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 15:45

Hi all,

This is my first time posting, I need some advice and guidance regarding my next door neighbour. My neighbour was sentenced end of October to 4 years in prison for sex offences on a child. I do not know the nature of the offences all I know is that they was 5 offences in total. With good behaviour he will be out of prison in 20 months. At the time none of the close neighbours could believe that he could be going in prison for offences of that nature as he always seemed so nice and helpful. Nobody could believe when he was convicted. Since then the house was raided last week and two illegal firearms were taken off the premises. My family and the other neighbours who know he has gone to prison are all very upset as to what has happened and now with these firearms being found too. Nobody wants this kind of trouble were they live.

I am a mummy to be and had a very difficult time in getting pregnant as my hubby and I had to go through fertility treatment which wasn't easy. As a result of what's happened with my next door neighbour I am very stressed and worried in my pregnancy I don't want my baby living next door to this. I know that people committed of these offences have to live somewhere but it doesn't mean I have to be happy about them living next door to me especially as they are in a rented house and we are buying ours. We have thought about moving but is there any legal way we can get them to move instead? We have invested a lot of time and money in making our home nice so do not see why we should move(if people want to think I'm being hysterical than so be it but your not living next door to it with all due respect) Is there anyway that I could find out the nature of the offences? If I know the exact nature of the offences it may help me to feel different.

I have tried to find out using the internet more about the case but information seems to be very limited. He was not sentenced in this area but even so in the area he was sentenced I can find nothing regarding the sentence in the local newspaper. The only information I could find was regarding the first hearing.

Also there is a school less than 5 minutes away. How close can someone convicted of sex offences live by a school? What are the best ways as a future mummy that I can protect my baby when this neighbour comes out of prison?

Please only send construction advice and guidance I do not want to be harassed like others have done by internet trolls. Thank you

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radiobedhead · 27/12/2014 15:48

I would think if he's going to prison he won't be renting his home while doing so...

AnyFucker · 27/12/2014 15:50

constructive advice ?

post your thread in a more appropriate topic

Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 15:53

As I said I am new to this. I do put in topic it was regarding a paedophile so why is this unclear.

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Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 15:54

The problem is his wife is still living next door and the house is in her name. Thank you for your support though. :)

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AnyFucker · 27/12/2014 15:55

This topic is for chatting about blogging

if you go back the main talk page there is a long list of topics

it would be better in chat or similar

radiobedhead · 27/12/2014 15:56

Ok, I'll bite.

I reckon he'll give up his tenancy, seeing as he'll be in prison. Unless he's leaving a family behind who'll stay living there or he can afford to keep the rent payments up.

If he stays or returns, and you don't want to live there then you'll have to move. But of course you won't know who you are moving next to. But you takes your chances.

radiobedhead · 27/12/2014 15:58

Oh and if the police have issued a press statement about it then that will have included offences, UNLESS stating them puts victims at risk of being identified.

radiobedhead · 27/12/2014 15:59

Right, xpost. Maybe he'll come back then. Maybe him and his wife will split. There's no way of knowing.

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Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 16:02

Ok radiobedhead. Thank you for your advice, much appreciated. It had not occurred to me that they would be why there isn't much information on the internet.

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Micah · 27/12/2014 16:02

So unless the wife was involved in his conviction, she's presumably horrified, appalled, humiliated, and a whole other range of emotions.

And you want to force her out of her home because you don't want to be associated with her because of her husbands actions? It may well be she doesn't ever want him near her again either.

Instead of ostracising the poor woman maybe have some sympathy. He's in prison, so no danger to you or others. Deal with him returning if and when he does.

radiobedhead · 27/12/2014 16:05

I'd be very wary of what others are saying op - chinese whispers and all that.

I'd probably go and say hello to the wife, invite her in for a cup of tea or something. As pp said, she's probably feeling awful and is aware of gossip.

Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 16:10

Micah I can understand what your saying but she only married him just before he was convicted to try to help his case. She is standing by him, Im not saying I will do something stupid or illegal. All I am trying to do is protect my family in whatever legal way possible. His family didn't care that they were keeping illegal firearms so what about the poor neighbours living next door to someone who has no regard for the law!

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Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 16:15

we are still saying hi. she does keep herself to herself now. Prior to this she really has been nasty to all the other neighbours at every opportunity and for no good reason. she is someone who likes to like down her nose at people and belittle them. I just hate this situation.

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MarjorieMelon · 27/12/2014 16:22

Well I'm not sure I would be inviting the wife in for a cup of tea.

AnitaManeater · 27/12/2014 16:23

There was a paedophile living 2 doors away from my house. The police raided his house one morning. He was given a fairly short sentence. He served his sentence, returned to the house and lived for another year or so with all curtains in his house drawn. The police raided him again as he had been downloading child porn. This time the house was rented out to tenants and eventually sold by the paedophiles parents as he was in prison.

The paedophiles that you know of are the least of your worries.

AnitaManeater · 27/12/2014 16:23

I wouldn't be inviting the wife round either.

radiobedhead · 27/12/2014 16:26

Well no I wouldn't invite her round now given what you've said

Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 16:31

thanks everyone. To be honest all the neighbours have only tolerated her because we all liked him. None of us never thought he would ever be convicted of sex offences on a child. It does make me feel sick when you read more into the subject and how many child sex offenders there are in the UK.

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maddy68 · 27/12/2014 16:33

Obviously this is an emotive issue.

If he is next door at least you know about it The likelihood of him returning to that house are slim due to fears for his own safety in the community
However, you would be absolutely outraged if you knew his many are living in the community. It's far more common than you would think. You could be living next door the other side to one and you would never know.
In every street there is likely to be 1 or 2. I work in this area so I know.
Most pedophiles pray on their own family, other people's children are too risky.
Just be naturally vigilant with your children with all people not just those you know about!

MarjorieMelon · 27/12/2014 16:35

I or 2 in every street Maddy? Really that many. That is awful.

TheDaysAreGettingLonger · 27/12/2014 16:36

Can I just ask about the single Man across the Road? He keeps getting random visits from police in pairs. They seem on friendly terms, and they stand at the front door like a pair of pillars, every so often. I often wonder why that would be happening?

Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 16:41

thanks for your advice maddy68. To be honest we were told by his son who don't live next door that his dad has every intent of coming out of prison and telling people why he went inside and expects people to feel sorry for him.

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Gawjushun · 27/12/2014 16:43

When he's released he will be subject to controls about where he can live etc. his probation officer will need to assess where he's moving to, and whether there are potential dangers. Hopefully, the property will be too close to the school and therefore he will have to rent elsewhere.

It's probably not all that comforting, but at least he's been caught. You know he's a danger and can keep your child away from him.

Marie1984 · 27/12/2014 16:46

Thanks Gawjushun. I do appreciate your comments. It isn't easy for us but I do get what your saying and thank you for your comments. We do live 5 mins away from local first school. It is literally round the corner from us.

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BackOnlyBriefly · 27/12/2014 17:15

We live in a society where people serve time in prison and then are released. As others have said precautions will be taken and he may never be back there, but there is no special right to not live next to someone who has been in prison.

especially as they are in a rented house and we are buying ours

Want to expand on that because at first glance it looks like people who own their own homes matter more.

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