Message to the mother in Starbucks in Derby , if you are a mnetter. Please don't call your child....

[AvenaLife]

stupid or a weirdo. It's really not very nice and it made my son and I really sad to hear this. Also, please do't rush her when she's eating because you have things to do. Telling her to hurry up 7 times in 5 minutes is OTT. Would it have killed you to be patient? It was not as if she was eating slowly though was it? Then you moaned at her for getting chocolate under her fingernails.

Rant over.

[bluebell82]

that women obviously is intent on giving her dd a nice complex! Poor thing, I hate it when moms are mean to their kids in public, it's one thing disciplining your child but not in a horrible mean bullying way, I hate it when kids are smacked in public too - not that I'm condoning it at home but the shame of being belted by a thug of a parent is terrible!

[bluebell82]

that women obviously is intent on giving her dd a nice complex! Poor thing, I hate it when moms are mean to their kids in public, it's one thing disciplining your child but not in a horrible mean bullying way, I hate it when kids are smacked in public too - not that I'm condoning it at home but the shame of being belted by a thug of a parent is terrible!

[DrNortherner]

The people who jusge the most know the least...

[clumsymum]

Oh avenaLife, how awful. That woman could never be a Mnetter tho, we would never do that.

Hijack BTW, how was your summer. I found a lovely student to help us out, in the end.

[2shoes]

wow all that in a 5 minute snapshot of someones life.

[AvenaLife]

I probably do know nothing about her but there's things a parent should never say to their child (I hate you, you're ugly, you're stupid/useless). I don't think I'm wrong in saying that these words make an impact on that child and affect their self esteem for a very long time.

I couldn't give two hoots about why she said these things and I'm not judging her as a mother, just what she said. The poor child looked very miserable. No one has the right to make a child feel this way. It's never acceptable to make a child feel like crap.

I think mothers are often critical of their daughters, I know my mother was. She used to be really ukind to me and I've never forgoten her saying I was fat (I'm a size 10) or smacig me across the face when I was afraid to go dow an escalator.

[southeastastra]

oh god butt out of people's lives noseache

[snarky]

Hmmmm northerner, normally I'd agree but in this instance it seems fairly clear cut. Sometimes only an imbecile could fail to make a judgement.

[AvenaLife]

Hi Clumsymum. I'm pleased you got it sorted. We just pottered around the house, there's ot alot to do over the holidays. Ds starts his new school on Thursday so I'm job hunting to see what I can find incase I can't go back to nursing.

[2shoes]

I never get to notice these things as I am normally to busy feeding dd. were you not busy being a perfect mum with your child

[dereelicte]

lolo SEA

[stroppyknickers]

I'm with Starbucks lady (sorry) Sitting with a child eating a muffin crumb by crumb when you have a whole list of stuff to do is excrutiating. I average one 'hurry up' every 30 seconds...Not sure about stupid but probably if I knew you were listening

[AvenaLife]

He was next to me reading and having a snack.

I'm far from perfect by the way but I would never speak to him like this. Even ds overheard.

[AvenaLife]

It was the wierdo that confused me. The stupid just pissed me off. There are worse things to do to a child, the little girl was about 6 and looked so upset.

[AbbeyA]

If you don't have time I would suggest that you don't go in for a muffin in the first place!

[Janni]

In these situations I always give the mum a big smile as I'm leaving and say 'you have a lovely child'.

[stroppyknickers]

LOL Abbey. Will get biscuit next time. Or huge gold coin.

[clumsymum]

But don't you find that repeatedly saying 'hurry up' achieves nothing? In fact, I swear that ds actually goes slower if I keep saying hurry up, so I just get more exasperated.
I've tried to stop myself doing it.

[helsy]

Context context context. What else do you know about their lives? Tap all.

[WilyWombat]

See I was just about to say "you are so going to be flamed" went off to get a sarnie and its already happening.

You have 2 choices now either stand your ground...in which case get ready for the personal insults to start or get the hell out

Which ever you choose - good luck

[AvenaLife]

I'll remember that Janni.

I agree Abbey. She wasn't a slow eater though.

I've got to go, I promised ds could use the laptop. Shall be back later to hear your comments, nice or otherwise.

[AvenaLife]

I will be back to stand my ground Wily.

[clumsymum]

Mind you, ds would gobble down a muffin in about 4 mouthfuls.

[WilyWombat]

LOL you mad person...they are going to swoop on you as though you have been personally clubbing baby seals rather than making a casual observation about the possible effect of someones parenting style on their child

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

sorry but have to agree no one child or adult should be called 'thick, stupid , idiot (unless it's XH! lol)' or all of the above!

DB was at school and has suffered since often calling himself thick & stupid after teachers told him - it's taken a long long time for mum/I to convince him he's neither, but his talents don't lay in academics - he's pratical.