To not want to drive 40 minutes to return a Jam Jar?

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itsme189 Thu 21-Oct-21 11:00:12

A family member (partners side) made us all Jam for Christmas last year, lovely gift and was very nice.

They now want all the Jars back to do it again they are like Kilner Jars (just not branded I don't think) I do still have it in the random Tupperware cupboard.

I would have to drive 40 minutes to return the Jar DH thinks I should as it is thiers. I just said it was a gift and I am happy to not receive any Jam this year to avoid this. We wont see them between now and Christmas. He thinks I'm being unreasonable?

DH can't drive and there is no public transport to where they live!

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Pottedpalm Thu 21-Oct-21 11:01:16

Post it

Wnikat Thu 21-Oct-21 11:02:02

Amazon them a new one

VimFuego101 Thu 21-Oct-21 11:02:23

YANBU, surely the jar is part of the gift?

Burnt0utMum Thu 21-Oct-21 11:02:45

Tell them they're welcome to come and collect them?

HotToddyColdSauvignon Thu 21-Oct-21 11:02:52

Tell them you gave it to a friends Child to use as a paint holder

negomi90 Thu 21-Oct-21 11:03:15

In the interest of family piece can you order a similar one delivered to their house as a compromise?


CreateAName123 Thu 21-Oct-21 11:03:29

It was a gift.... It's weird to ask for it back. And a bit tight tbh.

gamerchick Thu 21-Oct-21 11:03:34

Tell them they're welcome to collect it. Don't get into a back and forth.

Bancha Thu 21-Oct-21 11:03:39

That is bonkers.

SpringSparrow Thu 21-Oct-21 11:03:55

I would give the jar back next time I saw them. Or get your DH to post it?! Probably cost less than your petrol to post it back!

LivingLaVidaBabyShower Thu 21-Oct-21 11:04:02

I would amazon them a new one and tell them to keep their jam this year...

MintJulia Thu 21-Oct-21 11:04:23

Agree. order them a new one.

Anoisagusaris Thu 21-Oct-21 11:04:38

Did they tell you at the time they wanted the jar back?

Just say you don’t have it any more or are using it for something else.

gamerchick Thu 21-Oct-21 11:04:43

And tell your bloke if he wants to send it back he's welcome to sort that out himself.

MoonahStone Thu 21-Oct-21 11:04:43

Just tell them the jar was your favourite bit of the gift grin

MistyFrequencies Thu 21-Oct-21 11:04:50

The petrol of driving that distance outweighs the benefit of reusing the jar. Not a chance I'd do that for a bit more jam.

notapizzaeater Thu 21-Oct-21 11:05:12

We had this with posh Xmas bags, I just bought a new set and returned the originals full of gifts so everyone has one and just recycles them each year. I'd be tempted to send them some on Amazon and return last years when you collect this years so you should never have this issue again.

Shoxfordian Thu 21-Oct-21 11:05:27

Surely the jar was part of the present?

LemonMuffins Thu 21-Oct-21 11:05:59

I can't believe people are telling you to order them a new jar grin
I'd tell them to either collect it or forget it. You won't be leaving the house with the jar.

PlinkPlankPlunk Thu 21-Oct-21 11:06:20

Use the petrol money to buy yourself some locally made jam. Then everyone is happy, including the environment!

thevassal Thu 21-Oct-21 11:06:53

Tell them you recycled it/it smashed accidentally. Say you understand if that means you don't get jam that year.
40 minutes each way or 40 mins in total? Either way that's, what, between 3-8 quid for a jar!!!
No thanks id rather buy my own jam!

TumtumTree Thu 21-Oct-21 11:07:18

Your DH is being very unreasonable to expect you to do this when it is his family member who is asking! Let him sort it out OP. He can use any of the suggestions above (posting / getting a new one delivered from Amazon / asking family member to collect / telling family member not to worry about giving jam this year).

IglesiasPiggl Thu 21-Oct-21 11:07:56

I would say the jar has already been reused for the school fair, so unfortunately you don't have it. It is bonkers to drive all that way to recycle a jar.

girlmom21 Thu 21-Oct-21 11:08:03

Why can't he deliver it if it's his family and he thinks it should be returned?

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