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Married man. I know IABU

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Ellia28 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:43:26

I have been speaking to him for about 6 months.
His wife is pregnant.
We've shared pics, had video chats, spoken about everything for hours and made plans to meet.
I did not know any of this at the start, but now I do and I'm struggling to let go. I know I have to though.
Should I say something or just block him?

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SarahBellam Sun 09-Aug-20 22:45:11

Just block. He’s an utter, utter, shit. He doesn’t deserve another second of your time. His poor wife.

ohflourofscotland Sun 09-Aug-20 22:46:01

Block and stop going after married men

AnyFucker Sun 09-Aug-20 22:46:08

Sort yourself out. Ugh.

Gubbeen Sun 09-Aug-20 22:46:13

You’ve been messaging someone with a pregnant wife for six months, but have only just found out his true circumstances? Have you never met?

No, just cut off contact. This man is a pig and probably has a small flotilla of other women on the go.

Bringonspring Sun 09-Aug-20 22:46:58

You know the answer, just block. No good will come of it

gower4 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:47:22

Block. Sounds like a right loser.

Patch23042 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:47:40

You owe him nothing whatsoever. Say “this isn’t working for me any more”. Block. Or just block.

FudgeBrownie2019 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:48:27

Block him in every way possible. Leave nothing for him; he is a piece of shit doing what he's done and you have the choice now to be a part of his hideous behaviour or you can walk away, recover and move on.

How anyone can behave that way is beyond me, but his actions are his - now you know the truth you have to be responsible for your actions. Make it final and ensure he can't reel you in with any more of his lies.

Aquamarine1029 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:50:06

Do you want to be a woman who has affairs with a married man? A man who is an irredeemable piece of shit who cheats on their pregnant wife and will undoubtedly cheat on you given half a chance?Are your levels of self-respect and standards really this low?

If so, crack on. If not then just fucking block him as you know you should. FFS.

Enderman Sun 09-Aug-20 22:50:09

Of course you should just block him, you know that.

Dogssox Sun 09-Aug-20 22:50:15

How did it come about he told he was married and wife was pregnant?
He sounds like an utter low life.
You've been sucked in to his web and now you're finding it hard to get out but keep telling yourself this man has lied to you and his pregnant wife.
Block and delete. Don't give him any more of your time and just quietly grieve what you thought you had.

rainbowlou Sun 09-Aug-20 22:50:39

Block and delete.
Chances are you’re not the only one, I’d get an std check up too.

LouiseTrees Sun 09-Aug-20 22:52:23


Block and delete.
Chances are you’re not the only one, I’d get an std check up too.


AnneLovesGilbert Sun 09-Aug-20 22:52:29


PrincessHoneysuckle Sun 09-Aug-20 22:53:32

OK then

Therollockingrogue Sun 09-Aug-20 22:53:54

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Cherry321 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:54:08

flowers if you’ve only just found out he’s married
But block either way

VaggieMight Sun 09-Aug-20 22:54:17

Why say anything? Just block.

OhCaptain Sun 09-Aug-20 22:55:34

Grow up, ffs.

You don’t need anyone here to tell you what you should do.

I think people are mad to feed your need for drama.

DrManhattan Sun 09-Aug-20 22:55:41

Why do some men just lose the plot when their wife is pregnant. I have seen this a couple of times now.
I would tell him its massively inappropriate and just walk away. Won't feel great as you have invested in this but its the only right thing to do.

amusedtodeath1 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:57:17

You should block him immediately, no explanation, cold turkey. He's lying to his wife, he's probably (definitely) lying to you too.

The person you think you know doesn't exist, the fact he can do this to his wife means he has no decency.

There's no happy ending for anyone here.

Cuddling57 Sun 09-Aug-20 22:57:18

You're struggling to let go so you'll do the back and forward dance if you don't block him completely. This will go on for a while and you'll become addicted and convince yourself of all sorts of silly things.
Make a positive decision for your own life. Look after yourself and put yourself first. Don't accept a half relationship based on lies.
Break the chain and block him.

Lockheart Sun 09-Aug-20 22:59:00


Block and stop going after married men

How do you figure she's going after married men when she didn't know he was married?

feelaliveagain Sun 09-Aug-20 23:01:12

How long have you known he is married?

Say something? Like what? What would you say to him?

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