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To let DS blow out his birthday cake candles this weekend ?

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Ishouldtryabiteachdayer Fri 10-Jul-20 23:06:15

So having both lots of Grandparents for a birthday tea in the garden. My Dad says he's not eating the cake I'm decorating if DS blows on it. He says as he "might catch the virus." Would I be unreasonable to let DS blow out his birthday candles?

I mean eating birthday cake is optional, I could provide other shop bought cakes ? Seems sad not to let him,,but it is a bit gross when you think about it these days. BTW DS is turning 5.

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JanewaysBun Fri 10-Jul-20 23:07:44

I would avoid a cake a 5yo has spat all over at the best of times tbh

Lougle Fri 10-Jul-20 23:07:46

I would say that in these times your Dad has a point, tbh.

heysugar Fri 10-Jul-20 23:08:21

You could give him his own cupcake with candles on.

Alanna1 Fri 10-Jul-20 23:08:33

Little cake with candles. Big gorgeous cake to eat!

PinkyBrain Fri 10-Jul-20 23:09:25

Cut it first and put the candles in his piece for him to blow out maybe?

nightchat Fri 10-Jul-20 23:09:34

My daughters birthday we put a number candle on the cake and had a mini fairy cake version with the candles to blow out on. I agree kids blowing over cakes was always dodgy but more so now

Aroundtheworldin80moves Fri 10-Jul-20 23:10:43

Put candles on a cupcake.

avocadoze Fri 10-Jul-20 23:11:00

Yabu - I’m sure your ds will understand that there’s a new special way of doing candles this year.

Luckingfovely Fri 10-Jul-20 23:11:00

Yup excellent advice above re candles on small separate cake - no way on earth should you expect people to eat cake that has been blown on in these times!

Lateral thinking and looking for a solution often helps in these situations, rather than just digging your heels in.

AHF1975 Fri 10-Jul-20 23:12:03

Yeah, don't give anyone outside your 'bubble' the cake that your small child has blown over. Maybe have cupcakes to hand out ?

Yaottie Fri 10-Jul-20 23:12:39

Put clingfilm over the cake then put the candles in

heartsonacake Fri 10-Jul-20 23:13:56

YABU. I don’t think it’s fair to everyone else.

Alexandernevermind Fri 10-Jul-20 23:15:29

Let your 5yo blow the candles out on his Birthday cake, it's part of the fun on his Birthday. Just don't share it afterwards amongst people outside your household.

Jellybeansincognito Fri 10-Jul-20 23:16:49

Even if there was coronavirus on the cake you’re not going to get it by ingesting it.

They’re being ridiculous.

guineapig1 Fri 10-Jul-20 23:17:11

I’d compromise with a fairy cake with candles in it

madmumofteens Fri 10-Jul-20 23:18:56

God back in the day we used the relighting candles at our kids parties can you imagine 😱

Mummyof2girls5and10 Fri 10-Jul-20 23:20:10

At my nephews tea party last week we let him use a paper plate to waft the candles out. He thought it was great. You could also use one of those battery powered mini fans

divafever99 Fri 10-Jul-20 23:21:47

Wouldn't have even entered my mind to be honest! My daughter will be blowing her cake candles out next month, and if people don't like it, more cake for us grin

Northernsoullover Fri 10-Jul-20 23:22:24

Its still grim. Coronavirus or not. I'd get a fancy pants cupcake as pps have suggested for spraying over and another for eating.
We used to give cake from party bags to the birds.

PileofToss Fri 10-Jul-20 23:23:42


Mummyrowland Fri 10-Jul-20 23:23:56

Sorry but kids have suffered enough. Dont take away that! Have other cupcakes on standby of People refuse it tho

MarkRuffaloCrumble Fri 10-Jul-20 23:24:14

My DS is 20 and blew his candles out last year by flapping his hands as he thought blowing was unhygienic grin. I was quite proud of him tbh, as it is a gross tradition, especially with young DCs.

Especially at the moment you should be a bit more tolerant of your Dads view on this and find a compromise as others have suggested.

WutheringTights Fri 10-Jul-20 23:25:08

Of course he should blow out the candles. What's the point of a birthday cake otherwise? If you don't want the cake then don't eat it. If he has COVID then you'll get it anyway because small children are disgusting. Pick the icing off if you're squeamish.

DappledThings Fri 10-Jul-20 23:25:19

My Dad says he's not eating the cake I'm decorating if DS blows on it.

Well that's his choice. He's free to turn down cake if he wants to. Doesn't meant you have to stop your child doing something totally normal for a birthday to accommodate it.

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