To let DS blow out his birthday cake candles this weekend ?

[Ishouldtryabiteachdayer]

So having both lots of Grandparents for a birthday tea in the garden. My Dad says he's not eating the cake I'm decorating if DS blows on it. He says as he "might catch the virus." Would I be unreasonable to let DS blow out his birthday candles?

I mean eating birthday cake is optional, I could provide other shop bought cakes ? Seems sad not to let him,,but it is a bit gross when you think about it these days. BTW DS is turning 5.

Just carry on with a normal cake and candles, no-one is forcing him to eat cake

Just get one of those number sparklers so he can't blow it out anyway ???

I don’t disagree with making changes but think they should be for GP not dc.

A cupcake etc, the GP should be fine with that.

@MarshaBradyo

I don’t disagree with making changes but think they should be for GP not dc.

A cupcake etc, the GP should be fine with that.

You'd pander to an adult who could still eat the cake just by taking icing off?

I am with the grandparent on this one. In a way showing his love for his family by not wanting to have what could be a serious illness or a fatal one for him.

You'd pander to an adult who could still eat the cake just by taking icing off?

I wouldn’t pander to an adult who asks that a child not blow out their candles.

Getting some cupcakes is no big deal for me, so yeah I’d do that. I don’t use icing you can remove anyway and wouldn’t change to that so he could peel it off.

I'd do birthday cake and blowing out as usual. Cake isn't compulsory

@Jellybeansincognito

Even if there was coronavirus on the cake you’re not going to get it by ingesting it.

They’re being ridiculous.

Can you reference this?

@hampstead1234

I am with the grandparent on this one. In a way showing his love for his family by not wanting to have what could be a serious illness or a fatal one for him.

🙄

But it's ok for him to eat shared food, be in close proximity to others, use their loo, sit in their seats etc....

I’d buy a small cheap cake for grandparent consumption. The actual cake is fine for immediate family, even if it’s been breathed on.

As pp have said get a small separate cupcake or cake and put a candle on that.

I think that's a rather cruel thing of your dad to say. If he feels that strongly, he could have just politely declined a piece on the day and said he was on a healthy eating kick.

I think if you're having a big cake, the candles should be on the cake and your son should blow them out. That's party of what makes a birthday party really special when you're little.

To keep the peace, buy a couple of cupcakes for your parents to eat.

'I’d buy a small cheap cake for grandparent consumption. The actual cake is fine for immediate family, even if it’s been breathed on.'

This. And honestly, the child is the priority today. If your dad is going to be this illogical (presumably he will be hugging his grandson, or have I missed a PP?) then he can make do with shop-bought cake.

@dobbyssoc

As pp have said get a small separate cupcake or cake and put a candle on that.

The small cupcake should be for the GP, not the 5yo

@GreyishDays

"There is currently no evidence that food is a source of coronavirus (COVID-19) and it is very unlikely it can be transmitted through the consumption of food, according to EFSA (European Food Safety Authority)."
www.foodstandards.gov.scot/consumers/food-safety/coronavirus

Further proof in the eyes that the world has gone mad

I've been pretty relaxed throughout the whole thing but it has Meade me reevaluate the whole concept of eating cake that someone has blown all over. I'm with your dad, sorry!

If they're going to spend the afternoon with you and your household in your home , I doubt very much the children will socially distance, if any of you had it you'd likely pass it on to the grandparents anyway.

Will/might your 5yo be upset that GP is says he doesn’t want/doesn’t get any cake at all if you take a stand about GP being unreasonable?

Can you avoid this by one of the methods suggested here? Cup cake for GP/not in household, cupcake with candles then main cake, cling film...

"There is currently no evidence that food is a source of coronavirus (COVID-19) and it is very unlikely it can be transmitted through the consumption of food, according to EFSA (European Food Safety Authority)."*

Well I've not read the link but I'm assuming that this isn't referencing food that has been directly blown on minutes earlier by a covid infected individual. If so why are we being told to wash our hands/not touch our face if consuming covid particles isn't a risk?

Jeezo, how do people have the head space to worry about this "risk". Just let the child blow out their candles. The germaphobic adult doesn't have to eat the cake.

I can't believe how many make or buy an extra cake specifically to waste it, that's shocking.

Why would an extra cake be wasted? Even the one on which the candles are blown out can be eaten by the household, and a spare (non blowing out cake) can be eaten by anyone. Unless your family will only eat one slice of cake on the day of someone's birthday and never go back for another slice I think we can file cake waste as a low concern in the current situation.

I can't believe how many make or buy an extra cake specifically to waste it, that's shocking.

There are a lot of people on MN who are fucking weird about food in general, homemade food in particular and especially germy homemade food which someone may have, god forbid, breathed on.

Fgs this is complete insanity, let you son blow his fucking candles out and tell your dad to stop being a fucking moron.

@melissasummerfield

Fgs this is complete insanity, let you son blow his fucking candles out and tell your dad to stop being a fucking moron.

Quite. Total and utter insanity.