To let DS blow out his birthday cake candles this weekend ?

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So having both lots of Grandparents for a birthday tea in the garden. My Dad says he's not eating the cake I'm decorating if DS blows on it. He says as he "might catch the virus." Would I be unreasonable to let DS blow out his birthday candles?

I mean eating birthday cake is optional, I could provide other shop bought cakes ? Seems sad not to let him,,but it is a bit gross when you think about it these days. BTW DS is turning 5.

I’ve always peeled the fondant off.
DS snuck his birthday party in the week before lockdown when everything was shutting down. I took an extra cake to cut up for party bags and took the blown out one home.

I’m sure at the ripe old age of ....whatever age grandpa is, he is happy to forgo eating cake (which he could have any time) to allow his grandson the full birthday experience.

I think it’s your dad with the (rude) problem if he considers his needs to not eat cake over the joy of his grandson. Selfish.

Let him blow out his candles, it's his cake

For my sons bday I’m considering letting blow candles out on a cupcake and the rest of us have either our own cupcakes or a piece of a larger cake

I either buy a caterpillar cake and then the mini cakes to hand out. Or bake a cake and fairy cakes. I never eat the cake from a party 🤢🤢🤢

I think your dad is not being unreasonable, many people are the same way. I would get a smaller, special birthday boy cake if you want your son to blow the candles out, and have a differant cake for other people to eat.

Maybe you could have a cake sparkler instead of candles?

I would let your DS blow his candles out on his cake - don't take small things like that away. It is your df choice to eat it or not - he is not being unreasonable if he declines though, it is his choice. We all have to do what we feel is the right thing to keep ourselves safe.

I hadn’t thought of this either

Let him blow out the candles, if gp doesn’t want cake so be it.

I never eat the cake if someone has blown candles out over it. Gross!

It's your son's birthday, your son's cake.

Sorry. I’ve always avoided cakes that have been repeatedly blown and spat on by children. Turns my stomach.

We had a 7th birthday a few weeks ago, and it didn't even cross my mind to not have candles, but then again we were all in the same household bubble, so no social distancing between us for months...

Still, what are the odds of your DS having the dreaded lurgy? If he's been going to school/nursery, maybe... But otherwise? The grand-parents are more likely to get it from one of the grownups talking in their general direction.

Well I think the clingfilm idea has excellent potential. No reason why you couldn’t put more icing over the plastic to hide it, then peel back the Layer of Doom in the kitchen before cutting and serving.

In fact I think it won’t be long before someone crafty starts an online business selling ‘cake top extensions’ that (hover?) sit slightly over fancy decorated cakes for candle blowing, then get removed, washed and reused.

You can’t be serious that we’re going back to Spittle Cake for all, because it’s nostalgic? No amount of Covid vaccine is going to make that particular ritual seem fun again. Or saying ‘scuse fingers’ as you serve it while licking smears of icing off yourself.

Oh for goodness sake- let the boy blow out his candles on his cake. If grandpa doesn’t want to eat it then that’s up to him! People need to stop belong so bloody over the top- the risk of him having corona virus and spreading it via blowing on the cake is absolutely minuscule. If 100’s of people were blowing on it then fine but one boy who is already going to amongst family for the afternoon anyway? Don’t be so ridiculous

Oh course child should blow out his own bloody candles !!

I've never eaten cake that people have blown out candles on. Always thought it was a bit gross. Especially at the moment. As long as your immediate family will eat it if no one else will, your dad can make his own choice.

In the end, it isn’t the host’s right to decide the level of risk for others, or put them in an awkward position.

You make the cake sanitary, then guests decide if it’s within their personal protocols to eat it.

You can’t just say ‘Oh well, I’m eating it. Everyone should follow suit or I’ll label them as rude and uncaring of Jayden’s special day’. Well, you can, but the writing’s on the wall. Watch everyone be too busy to come to your parties. They love you, but not enough to risk intubation. I think that’s fair.

Your dad is a killjoy, tell him that's fine, more cake for the Birthday Boy!

I think it's up to the (presumably mostly adult) guests to turn down the cake if they aren't comfortable with rather than expecting a 5 year old child to forego blowing his candles out. You could have some cupcakes or something so that everybody gets some cake.

@Nitpickpicnic

Well I think the clingfilm idea has excellent potential. No reason why you couldn’t put more icing over the plastic to hide it, then peel back the Layer of Doom in the kitchen before cutting and serving.

In fact I think it won’t be long before someone crafty starts an online business selling ‘cake top extensions’ that (hover?) sit slightly over fancy decorated cakes for candle blowing, then get removed, washed and reused.

You can’t be serious that we’re going back to Spittle Cake for all, because it’s nostalgic? No amount of Covid vaccine is going to make that particular ritual seem fun again. Or saying ‘scuse fingers’ as you serve it while licking smears of icing off yourself.

I know a child who can't blow out candles without 25 tonnes of spit - to the point social distancing has been a thing for their candle blowing for years. A lovely cake maker locally made a polysterene "cake" with the decorations on to put candles on and then separately made a lovely tasting cake for cutting up.

Get a cheap sponge cake or Swiss roll from any shop. and use that for candle blowing, then give the cake to the birds after, your Son might like the idea of the birds having some cake as well.

Put the candles on something which isn't going to be eaten.

Blow the candles out, cut cake, sorted.

Candles on a cupcake. That way everyone gets to eat cake. Or do you want your son to eat the whole cake himself?

"Suffering" because candles are done a bit differently? I think not.

Sorry, but it's pretty gross when a child isn't old enough to not spit as they blow out the candles. I'd have a smaller cake or cupcake for the candles-- or protect the cake with clingfilm. ...Or cut him a piece of cake first and put his candles just on his piece.

Alternative is to have a separate cake/cupcakes for people who don't want to eat the "blown-on"cake, or they just don't eat cake. I don't think most children will care where the candles are, though, so long as they have a nice cake to eat and get the blow out candles somewhere.