To let DS blow out his birthday cake candles this weekend ?

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So having both lots of Grandparents for a birthday tea in the garden. My Dad says he's not eating the cake I'm decorating if DS blows on it. He says as he "might catch the virus." Would I be unreasonable to let DS blow out his birthday candles?

I mean eating birthday cake is optional, I could provide other shop bought cakes ? Seems sad not to let him,,but it is a bit gross when you think about it these days. BTW DS is turning 5.

@Yaottie

Put clingfilm over the cake then put the candles in

that's what they did for my nieces cake - easiest solution.

Why is your dad even coming? Because I don't fancy his chances of staying 6 feet away from an excited little 4 year old. He is at as much risk just being there. Is he meant to be shielding? Is he vulnerable? I would absolutely let your son blow out the candles. Your dad can live without a bit of cake in his corner of the garden.

From September to February we have a lot of birthday cake as there is 6 in my house that have cakes me and husband more so for the kids to blow out and honestly it has never entered my head about them blowing it out and isn't going to. As people said eating it is up to who ever but if the cake is nice I will be gaveling a slice lol

Tell him to just leave the icing ffs

Your dad had a point. Seriously, though, is it going to kill him not to eat a bit of cake if it means his grandson gets to blow them out? Is his name Victor Meldrew?

Put clingfilm over the cake then put the candles in
What a depressing concept.

How sad that people would tell a 5 year old they can't blown out candles on their cake

My DC getting to enjoy their birthday as normal as possible would trump what anyone else thought. Just have a separate cake for those outside your immediate family who don't want the main one.

I've always found this disgusting. Never said anything but always chose the not spit on cake or just not eat cake. Can't you just gave another cake for those that might prefer that? Just tell them for instance that they can have the vanilla birthday cake or the chocolate one in the fridge? That way it's clear which is which.

Depending on the decoration of the cake, PPs suggestion of clingfilm over the top sounds like a decent compromise? Or could you stick the candles into something else, like half an orange (a la the party food hedgehog) so DS still gets to blow out his candles and make a wish?

Oh ffs he's a small child and if people don't want to eat the cake, there's more for you.
Kids have suffered enough. As for adults we can't live in fear forever.

We have never blown over cakes to be shared. Its grim. Eldest is 22 and from her being small loads of parties have had a separate little cake with candles for blowing out.
I agree with your Dad.
No one wants to eat spit.

It's his birthday cake!

Who cares if the GPs want to eat it or not. They can eat other things. Or they could just cut off and leave the icing layer and eat the rest of their slice, really easily.

I am pinching the cling film idea for this weekend's cake.

He doesn’t have to have a piece does he?
DS can blow out the candles on his cake. Win win for everyone.

I never eat cake someone has blown on. Why is it OK on a birthday? If I came round and blew on your dinner any other day you'd be disgusted

Tell him he won’t get any cake. Simple.

Let your DS blow out his birthday candles

@Greggers2017

Oh ffs he's a small child and if people don't want to eat the cake, there's more for you. Kids have suffered enough. As for adults we can't live in fear forever.

Kids haven’t suffered; they won’t even remember it.

And nobody has or will ever suffer because they didn’t get to blow out their birthday candles one year

Let him blow out the candle. No one is forced to eat the cake

He's 5! His birthday, his cake. Of course he blows out the candles. Clingfilm, mini fans, wafting it out with a plate??? what is happening??

My kids will blow the candles out on their birthday cakes this year. Anyone else can take it or leave it.

Birthday cake isn't the same without spit! He's only five, let him enjoy it -
you won't be forcing it on anyone who doesn't fancy it.

"My Dad says he's not eating the cake I'm decorating if DS blows on it."
That is your father's choice to make.

But I would still allow a 5 year old to blow out the candles. I'd have some extra cakes too, your dad can have one of those.

I thought that’s what the fondant icing was for - to protect the edible part of the cake from child spittle.

We just put the candles on the cake as normal and our 3 year old blew them out (twice!) last week, everyone ate cake. I only thought about it later, no one seemed bothered though. I wouldn't spoil the fun bit of a child's birthday for the sake of one awkward adult. Why not buy your dad a cupcake?

We just had a garden tea party for my mum, I put number candles on her cake and we brought it out and sang then she picked the two candles off the cake and blew them out in the opposite direction of the cake and the guests ha!