Page 2 | Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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cantbeatfreshsheets Wed 20-Nov-19 14:45:11

I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

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Batqueen Wed 20-Nov-19 14:52:31

So you were already the annoying latecomers who disturb everyone by coming in after it starts and then decided to be even more annoying by singing along when everyone has paid to hear the actors and to top it all of you were aggressive when told to pipe down and follow the rules?


Justgivemesomepeace Wed 20-Nov-19 14:52:54

At some musicals its appropriate to sing such as Mamma Mia, others no way.
Whenever i go, which isnt very often as its so expensive, I love hearing the singers voices and am in awe of their talent. If some woman behind started joining in and spoiling it id be pretty cheesed off. Depends entirely however on the type of show. If your mum was the only person singing along then id say she was probably behaving inappropriately. If the audience were joining in then the woman in front was being a misery.

Inferiorbeing Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:01


Unless it's a singalong show where you pay to hear people try and sing and ruin the show it's not fair. You and your mum should be very embarrassed. You came in late (most places wouldn't let you in) and then ruined the show for someone else. People like you shouldn't go to show.

TheMidasTouch Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:04


"You deserved each other"

"What kind of trash manages to make a scene at a musical ffs"
In true MN style - did you mean to be so rude? grin

TowelNumber42 Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:36

The other woman wasn't playing the victim. She was the victim.

I hope the theatre gave her free tickets for having been subject to your family being so aggressive and unreasonable. I bet she was indeed shocked to meet such horrible people on her night out. You are lucky you didn't get kicked out.

Shoxfordian Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:38

So you turned up late, probably had the whole row stand up so you could get to your seats then started singing along.....yabu


ShirleyPhallus Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:39

NO ONE can be this dense. I’ve paid money to hear professionals sing, not some random women in the audience who turned up late and disturbed everyone anyway

Howlovely Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:43

This has to be a wind-up, surely?
You arrive late so everyone in your row probably had to move for you to get to your seats. You then sing along with some of the songs loud enough to annoy the person in front of you and then create a scene about being asked not to? Utterly lacking in class.
By the way, being late is no excuse to disregard the theatre rules. Oh, and comparing your experience with the oppression Tina Turner experienced? Jesus. H. Christ.

Atalune Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:55

You sound like a total nightmare

weirdsmell Wed 20-Nov-19 14:53:54

Surely not hmm

Inferiorbeing Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:03


ItsAPleasureSwingYouFuckNut Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:10

Oh no, you would have driven me mad OP! I hate it when people do this, even more so when you are specifically asked not to bloody sing! Other people haven't paid to hear you.

ViaSacra Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:14

A lot of musicals let you sing the last encore number. We all stood up to Joseph at the end the whole theatre!

The encore song - absolutely fine.

20 minutes in like the OP's mum? Not fine.

Celebelly Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:17

Does your mum have the voice of Tina Turner? Was it billed as a singalong version? Those are the only reasons it would be acceptable. No one pays money to hear your mum warbling along, regardless of whether it's her birthday or not.

MrHaroldFry Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:24

I can see why you are upset as your MuM
was having her birthday treat and you don't like to see her upset.
However, I'm sorry to say I believe, from what you have noted above, that you were V unreasonable. They lady in front probably had 'ear assault' from your Mum's singalong.
As others have said, they paid to see the show and hear professionals sing. Your mum's singalong spoiled other patrons day out.

Comefromaway Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:27

You were being VERY unreasonable. I (and others) pay to hear the trained professionals sing, not Doris in the front row. It's incredible rude to both the performers and the other audience members. Often the songs are performed in a different way to the original anyway to suit the storyline.

Jukebox musicals generally have one show at the end where partciation is encouraged (not seen Tina but Mamma Mia is Waterloo & Beautiful it is I Feel the Earth Move). That is the only time you should sing.

hiphiphoorayback Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:42

TBH the state of people's behaviour in the theatre these days is unbelievable. I have sat next to someone chomping through a whole carton of pringles, people opening sweets and crisps in quiet poignant solos - people have no shame!hmm

DorisDances Wed 20-Nov-19 14:54:54

Really poor behaviour OP - sorry your mum's birthday was tainted but you definitely brought that on yourselves

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:14

Your mum should not have sung along - sorry, @cantbeatfreshsheets. As you will know, theatre tickets are NOT cheap, and if I had shelled out to see the professional cast perform (not a singalong version), I would not be happy with audience members joining in, whether it was their birthday or not.

You and your mum spoiled the experience, not only for the woman who complained, but probably for other people around you too. As an adult, your mum should have known better

Lulualla Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:18

This must be a reverse. There is no way anyone would post this and actually believe what they are typing. No way.

You do not go to a musical and sing unless it's a sing-a-long event. You've paid for your seat and that's fine, but the other thousand people have paid for the other thousand seats. You don't get to ruin the show for them and hearing some wee woman singing away instead of being able to clearly hear the cast will ruin the show for those around you. Unbelievable that you think it's ok so you must the the lady sitting in front. She was completely right and I'm hoping that's who you actually were in this story.

Comefromaway Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:25

At some musicals its appropriate to sing such as Mamma Mia, others no way.

At Mamma Mia you are only allowed to sing along to the encore which is Waterloo.

peachgreen Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:27

Reverse or GF otherwise you wouldn't have mentioned being late.

PrittSticky Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:39

I feel sorry for your father.

He must have been so embarassed at the way the rest of you were behaving.

HermioneWeasley Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:45

This must be a reverse - nobody this lacking in self awareness?!

ChessIsASport Wed 20-Nov-19 14:55:50

I’m guessing this is a reverse as you subtly mention the arriving late. grin

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