Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

Oh god how embarrassing all round. I can see how you and your mum were upset but you must see that she was very much in the wrong?

YWBVVU. Theatre tickets are very expensive - for most people it is a special treat. In order to appreciate the expensive treat and allow others to do the same, get there on time and save any talking/singing for the interval or on the way home.

If you can’t or won’t do this, don’t go.

I wouldn’t say you’re being unreasonable as such as I can see obviously your mum was having a good time but at the end of the day , people are paying to see someone sing . So they’re gonna be bummed if they can hear someone else singing over the top of the actors . And whether or not your mum saw the sign about not singing or not , it was there and there are rules for a reason . Also pretty unreasonable for your mum to tell the lady how dare you tell me how to behave . That would annoy me more I think .

Sorry you had a bad experience though

People like you really shouldn’t be allowed into theatres.

And btw, your mum's singing will have annoyed absolutely everybody else sitting around her, but only that one woman was brave enough to say something.

I went to see a musical last year and a woman decided to sing along with a bit of the chorus - didn't help that she was half cut. It was really irritating, I was on the verge of asking her to not to and the woman in front turned round and asked her to stop. Everyone in the surrounding rows shot the shusher a look of gratitude.

I don't go to the theatre often, it's a real treat, not to be ruined by an obnoxious audience member who feels that their right to a good time is more important than other audience members.

Also you arrived late, you disrupted the performance, and your mum was confrontational in the intermission, leading to a complaint to the manager. And you're wondering who was unreasonable?! Oy vey

Singing along, unless specifically encouraged to do so in some musicals, can really ruin the enjoyment for others. If everyone was allowed to sing you wouldn't get to experience the professional singer(s)...and some people who think they can sing are tone deaf.

I can well imagine my DM doing this though (makes mental note never to take her to another musical).

YABU

The woman in front sounds a bit abrasive. While I don't appreciate hearing someone's mum singing along to a performance I've paid to see, I'd leave it the first couple of times and then politely ask them to stop. It's your fault that you were late (incidentally that will have already put you on the back foot with your fellow theatre goers) and CBA to read signs - not really a good reason.

However, much as the woman in front sounds graceless, the manager said you were being aggressive and behaving unacceptably. Bearing in mind that she's never met you before, a complete stranger who is presumably accustomed to dealing with difficult situations/people saying that to you should give you pause. I appreciate that you're upset and I'm really sorry about your mum's treat, but maybe have a bit of a think about how your interactions look to others if this is the kind of feedback you're getting.

I agree YABU. I go to hear professionals perform, not to listen to your mother warbling in my ear.

If your mum wants to sing at a musical then she can find auditions on Backstage.

The audience pays to hear the actors, not your mum.

Surely a reverse

Reverse, reverse, reverse.

Is this a joke? This entire post screams all about ME' beginning to end. How horribly cringe.

Oh dear, you have been given a rather hard time on this, OP.

But, they are right. It's simply not done to sing along at a musical, unless a specific performance for that purpose. If you went to the cinema to see a revival of your favourite move, I expect you'd be annoyed if the big fan in front spoke along to all the lines. Or indeed, if some students at a Shakespeare at the RSC were acting along to Hamlet.

It's sad that your mother ended up not enjoying the show, but ultimately, she was the cause of others not enjoying theirs. I hope you all have a better experience next time.

OP has exited stage left - possibly persued by a bear that hates audience participation....

You arrive late, disturb everyone in the surrounding seats, then your mum sings over the professional singer on stage who people have paid to see.
You must be able to see you're wrong?

Wow what an onslaught!
Really shouldn't be singing along tho.
I don't know what a reverse is but I imagine op is reversing her way out of this thread with her proverbial tail between her legs 😕😖

Yabvu.

I'd be furious if I'd paid to hear the professionals sing but instead had someone's out of key droning in my ear.

It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late.

I love that this is your excuse for not seeing the sign. So, you disrupted people by being late, then further disrupted them by singing along when you weren't supposed to. You were being unreasonable.

You compare a scene completely of your family's own making to the oppression experienced by Tina Turner, and you then accuse somebody else of playing the victim?

Haven't got much in the way of self-awareness, have you?

Ahaha I just saw the oppression line. This has to be a pisstake now. Stand down.

You are the kind of arseholes that put me off going to the theatre. Your group was in the wrong from start to finish. You arrived late, disturbed others and you shouldn't need a sign to tell you not to sing along. People have paid a lot of money to see fabulous professionals perform - it's not karaoke.

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