Totally ready to get flamed here but surely someone feels same as me.
I'm 35. Married man. Got two beautiful children.
Sadly my wife has given up on sex. We have had sex once in 4 years. No other sexual contact.
I realise with young kids sex is going to be less frequent. I also realise there are more pressures on my wife to deliver childcare and run house as I work full time.
I've rearranged my work life to get a day a week with kids and to help with housework and childcare. I've taken sex mentally off the table and focussed on being a caring husband so she feels loved.
Sadly there is just nothing .
I know I'm not perfect. Neither am I s gorgeous lethario. I do however genuinely love my wife. This is tearing me apart.
She tells me things will get better- but how long is reasonable to wait. 3 years ? 5 years ? A lost lifetime.?
To me my options are :
- accept it and carry on loving my beautiful wife non sexually
- Tell her I'm leaving and break 2 children's hearts and futures (I think or hopr we are good parents)
- find a friend with benefits and keep marriage as is
No option is perfect . Has anyone else done this? Does anyone else want this ?
Flame away- but remember id accept a life without sex for my children's benefit. I'm just not sure that's right