Would you knowingly be the other woman?

[wouldyoubeherifyouknew]

Name changed.

I've been reading a lot of threads about affairs and thinking of my own situation and wondering this:

If you knew someone was married with young children and the family had recently been bereaved after a very traumatic year, would you KNOWINGLY get romantically involved with that person?

[JaceLancs]

No
After being cheated on by ExDH I would never be the OW knowingly
As a lone parent when younger I had a few ‘offers’ from husbands of friends and acquaintances - they got relationship advice via a flea in the ear

[stevie69]

No. Absolutely. Not!

[Butterflykissess]

i lost alot of respect for a family member when she knowingly became the OW. she believed him when he said it was over with his wife. they eventually broke up and he is still with the wife...

[honeysucklejasmine]

Hell. No.

[Hisnamesblaine]

No. Are you considering it OP?

[FlyingElbows]

Never.

[PurpleDaisies]

No.

[Moominfan]

I think the majority will answer no. I'm curious to hear from people who have though.

[kaytee87]

Absolutely not. Not even taking the wife into
account, I have too much respect for myself to be someone's 'other' woman.
I also believe that marriage / family is important & sacred.

[Skydiving]

No.
The only women I have know do this have all had extreme low self confidence issues.
It always ended in tears for them aswell and really it was no more than they deserved.

[Freetogo]

No & god forbid I was duped.

[Extravagant]

Also a no from me.

[Makemineboozefree]

No bloody chance. When I think about how devastated I'd be if my DH had an affair, there's no way I could knowingly inflict that hurt on someone else.

[Littletreefrog]

No!

I will admit to being the other woman (or girl I should say) when I was 16. I was young and naive. He was 18 and I think she was about 18 as well. Deep down I knew she believed she was still in a relationship with him and that he allowed and encouraged her to believe that but I also let myself believe what he said about them having split up and now.jhst being friends blah blah blah. Only lasted about 6 months and I am an older and wiser person now.

[Kerryberry34]

When I was younger I was once... now am a bit older and have been on the receiving end definetly not I also have a huge amount of guilt for the time that I was but when your 20 and no responsibilities you don’t really think about the wife and kids

[WhiteCoyote]

Nope absolutely not. I have too much respect for other women and know how much men lie about, well, everything.

[Potplant]

No.
I can't think of anything less attractive than a married man sniffing around other women.

[Freetogo]

P.S - No , because apart from knowingly destroying another womans life and possibly her childrens, the other reason would be that I wouldn't want to take turns on someones penis.

[BottleOfJameson]

NO. I couldn't live with myself firstly and secondly I wouldn't have any interest in the kind of guy who would start an affair when he had a young family who had recently been bereaved.

[Barbaro]

Nope and there would be hell to pay if I was lied to about it. He'd regret it majorly as I would ruin his life for putting me in that position.

[wouldyoubeherifyouknew]

@Hisnamesblaine no. I'm the wife in this scenario. My (soon to be ex) husband has been gone years now but it baffles me how anyone could do that knowingly to someone else, especially when there's young kids and especially in the circumstances.

[Walkerbean16]

No.

My husband recently had an affair with a 20year old. She knew he was married. She knew we had children, she knew i was at home with a newborn baby yet she still did it. Now she can move on and carry on with life whilst mine is a fucking mess.

[Marmablade]

No absolutely not. My happiness is not more important than an entire family's.

[wouldyoubeherifyouknew]

@Walkerbean16 that's awful. I'm sorry. Men are such bastards.

[MsVestibule]

I'm not sure many women are going to admit on MN to being the OW, OP!! I got a ton of grief for admitting I only washed my bra once a month!!