Hi!
Lost my login to my old account but made a very similar name for this account, So hopefully a few will recognise me.
(Quick run down. Sister kicked niece out over sister's new boyfriend is the crux of it)
In the last 6 weeks, my sister has suddenly wanted a relationship with niece. ( coincidental the reconciliation happened around the birth of baby number 7)
Last night niece went and stayed for the first time since her mum kicking her out, obviously I was wary because my sister is still with her partner who is a dick.
Niece has not long been back, hasn't slept all night because she was helping with the baby (which she says she didnt mind) But a few things stuck out too me, maybe I'm being over sensitive because of the previous situation but I would like opinions.
- a 3 drink rule was put in place. She was only allowed 3 drinks when there (water was included in this) because she can't be drinking all the people's drinks who lives there
- everytime she mentioned me, my child or pregnancy it was made clear by the boyfriend he doesn't want me being mentioned.
- she wasn't allowed a shower or bath because she doesn't live there anymore
- when she was playing with the younger siblings he told her too stop it and go and look after the new baby because that's why she is there.
- Made it obvious he didnt want her there.
- (not really on the best grounds with my sister but it's improved) I got a text about 40 minutes after niece came home, apparently from sister. Asking if neice is planning on making staying over a regular thing, could I start contributing something for when she stays and explain that she must listen,follow and respect what (boyfriends name) says.
She is so excited that her mum is allowing her back around the house and near her siblings, but Im just worried the boyfriend is setting her up to fail. Are the above "rules" Ok? Or am I just being a bitch and not giving him the benefit of the doubt because of last time.