To not understand this etiquette 'rule'

[Cheeseontoastie]

I was coming into my children's school a few days ago, I have a pram and another lady with a pram moved hers over slightly as I was coming through (talking like an inch) anyway as I passed she rudely huffed "ugh your welcome!" I was abit taken aback. Now since then (and when ever I do it before anyway) no one ever "thanks" me. I've just moved out the way for a woman and a man and two kids and didn't get any acknowledgement. I also always move my pram out for another one to fit in and it's very rare anyone says thanks they usually just roll it in. I don't expect a thanks but also don't understand why some people get angry/rude about it. So what are the 'rules'?

[Only1scoop]

She moved her pram

A simple natural 'thank you' would have been all I said.

[Cheeseontoastie]

As I'm saying I do it all the time and never get thanked but equally I don't have a go at people about it so wonderig what the "rule" is

[PrincessoftheSea]

Good manners is to say thank you if someone moves out of the way for you. Cannot people people have to ask

[Bluntness100]

I would always say thanks if someone moved for me, if I moved for someone and they didn’t acknowledge it, I would not say anything, but I’d momentarily think “rude twat”.

[Only1scoop]

'no one ever "thanks" me.'

They lack manners then.

[PrincessoftheSea]

Cannot believe...

[GreenTulips]

Manners cost nothing, she expected manners, as would I!!

As you don't you're not offended, but you were rude

Others being rude leads to more rudeness

As you're in a school perhaps you could lead by example for the next generation

[Only1scoop]

Princess

Quite

[Trailedanderror]

Did you not even make eye contact?

[wasonthelist]

There is no rule. Say thank you if you wish to be polite, just be an ignorant git if you prefer. As for whether anyone thanks you - it’s life not double entry bookkeeping

[Cheeseontoastie]

I was in a rush so hasn't really noticed my point still is people rarely thank me. Buses where I am you sometimes have to physically remove your pram from the space into the aisle to let someone else in an I never get a thanks. And I always wait for people to come past me at the school, the path is quite narrow. Again no thanks.

[Butteredparsn1ps]

It’s always better to be polite. Say thank you, but accept that there are rude feckers out there who won’t thank you in turn.

As it’s school, and people you will probably see regularly, it’s worth a friendly nod surely?

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

Course you say thanks. You mean someone would move their pram S d you would just pass, no smile, thanks, nice weather, nothing? God people lack basic politeness. Just cause other people are rude doesn't mean you need to be

[Cheeseontoastie]

It was packed with people coming out so no I didn't specially draw her out of the crowd to make eye contact with her as I hadn't actually noticed her till after she went "ugh your welcome".

[Cheeseontoastie]

Like I said I always wait to let others out at the school. Very narrow path. Never been thanked.

[isthismummy]

Is this a wind up?

She moved her pram for you. She should have been thanked. It's called having basic manners.

[Only1scoop]

My manners come naturally

I don't have to think about using them really.

She expected common courtesy and it was lacking.

[Rightsaidmabel]

Another person has recognised your need:in this case,for a little more space.They have made an effort ,however little was required,to help you.
As a human being,you show appreciation for that small gesture.Don't bother if you prefer to join the ranks of those who don't,but it's a bleak world without this small foundation of courtesy,kindness and mutual understanding.

[isthismummy]

She people might not thank you op, but they really should. People are getting more ill mannered in general, but it's not a good thing. I was brought up to ALWAYS thank people.

[GreenTulips]

Maybe she's done it countless times and you've never said thanks? Maybe she's fed up of you're rudeness and called you up on it?

[gamerwidow]

It is polite to say thank you or at the very least to look at the person moving and smile and nod to acknowledge them.
I always say thank you to people who move out of the way or hold doors open or do any of the basic friendly transactions that make life easier. Try doing it more, you’ll find people do it back to you and it makes life so much brighter.

[Trailedanderror]

Please take on board this: it'll transform your life.
Smile and make eye contact. Everywhere. You'll find the world is a lot friendlier place, you'll get lots of thank yous back. Perhaps you look a bit distracted or stressed and that's why people aren't reacting to you.

[Cheeseontoastie]

Never seen her before tbh. I see many of the same mums who don't thank me. Anyway I was asking why people done generally do it. Rather than why I didn't do it once. They can't all be rude?

[Temporaryanonymity]

Well,her response was pretty rude so any manners she might have displayed in moving are cancelled out.. Says more about her I think.

[senua]

So what are the 'rules'?

Are you seriously telling me that you don't know that the rule is "if someone does you a kindness then you acknowledge it and say thank you". You apply this in any situation, not just pram-related ones.