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lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:22:03

So... new partner. Roughly a month together now. He had this holiday booked with friends before he met me so he obviously went.

When at home we chat a lot, texts, facebook, whatever, and we obviously see eachother a lot.

If you were me, how often would you expect to be contacted while he's on holiday?smile

Mumof56 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:23:52

I wouldn't expect to hear from him at all, unless the holiday is over a month

PinkHeart5911 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:23:53

Well his on holiday with friends and you've only been seeing each other 1 month, so tbh I'd expect no contact while away or at the very most 1 message to say "having a good time etc"

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:25:19

He's away for week, I think I forgot mentioning that

Theresnonamesleft Sat 12-Aug-17 14:25:48


LAlady Sat 12-Aug-17 14:26:27

I wouldn't expect any contact.

pigsDOfly Sat 12-Aug-17 14:27:40

Do you really consider him your 'partner' after a month, or do you mean a month living together?

If you've only know each other a month I wouldn't expect him to contact you a great deal tbh. He's on holiday with his friends and, I imagine, will be busy doing whatever the holiday involves.

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:27:49

Right. So I'm being a bit selfish.

I probably wouldn't have expected any contact IF he wouldn't have said 4939201 times how much he'll miss me etc & now barely any contact. Does that make any sense?

haveacupoftea Sat 12-Aug-17 14:28:20

Also none. You've only been seeing him a month.

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:28:36

@pigsDOfly A month together. Ok, let's say boyfriend then smile

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:29:17

@haveacupoftea right, selfish me. Thanks for your input, I do realise I'm being an entitled bitch now 😂

PinkHeart5911 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:30:01

You can miss talking/seeing someone without contacting them. Sometimes in a relationship its good to allow yourself to miss that person and have fun with others.

crazykitten20 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:30:04

Men tend to compartmentalise. Out of sight you are put into a box and not thought about too often.

lampshady Sat 12-Aug-17 14:30:38

He's probably not missing you loads if he's with his mates having a great time. Maybe he thought he'd miss you more than he does? Tbh after a month I'd be a bit freaked out if someone layed it on that thick about missing me - it's quite unrealistic.

Cring Sat 12-Aug-17 14:31:10

Away for a week- I would expect contact every 2-3 days based on being together a month. Just texts probably.

StillDrivingMeBonkers Sat 12-Aug-17 14:31:12

I'd expect a taa*raa from the airport, and a Hello we've landed.

N0tNowBernard Sat 12-Aug-17 14:31:41

I'm a bit surprised at these replies. I wouldn't expect contact every day, or even a phone call, but the odd text - yes. A month in is the early lovely stage where you can't stop thinking about each other! Even though he's on holiday.

VelvetSpoon Sat 12-Aug-17 14:31:59

I wouldn't contact someone I'd been dating for only a month (have you even had the official talk yet?) whilst on a weeks holiday, so I wouldn't expect to be contacted either.

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:32:36

I know I will sound like a fucking lunatic. But: this relationship is something I never had (and consider that I almost got married with ex so obviously not used to a new relationship anymore as I've been with ex 5 yrs), It's just the chemistry, the way I feel with him. It might sound really crazy, but we've done a lot in a month. (i'm not crazy, am I?), so now I'm finding myself wanting him to text me and missing him

notevernotnevernotnohow Sat 12-Aug-17 14:32:45

You're seeing each other for a few weeks, he's a casual boyfriend at best. No, I would not particularly expect him to be contacting you while on holiday.

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:33:24

@N0tNowBernard me 2 tbh!

VelvetSpoon Sat 12-Aug-17 14:33:41

Also if he's away with friends -

Is it a lads holiday type thing?

Do his friends know about you?

lunaysol3828 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:33:48

@notevernotnevernotnohow I really don't think is casual smile

PinkHeart5911 Sat 12-Aug-17 14:33:56

You may of done a lot in a month, but it's still only 1 month which is no time at all.

pigsDOfly Sat 12-Aug-17 14:34:14

I don't think you're being an entitled bitch OP.

He's away on holiday and you're stuck at home. Understandably you're feeling a bit neglected. Keep yourself busy and the time will soon pass.

And when he gets back don't whatever you do ask him why you didn't hear from him, you'll just sound needy.

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