DD (14) wearing leggings and crop tops

[tactum]

DD is very sporty, likes to wear nice stuff but definitely never looks tarty or overdone. Her clothes of choice and comfort are black leggings and a top. If I was wearing leggings the top would definitely cover my whole (enormous) bum.

However she very often wears a short tshirt or crop top and isn't at all concerned that her crotch and bum are on view. She is very slim but obviously is now developing a woman's figure. She is definitely not trying to show off her bum, just doesn't see any issue with it.

I can't really work out if I should talk to her about it or if I should just think, lucky her to be able to get away with it! I'm slightly more bothered about the crotch than the bum I think.

AIBU?

[MrsJayy]

Yes yabu the crop top leggings fashion has been out for a while and showing bum and belly isn't a crime or indecent (sp) I personally think leggings need long tops and Iagree it isn't the best look but it is a teen look

[Rainydayspending]

Really? Everywhere i go at the moment I see women wearing gymn clothes (supermarket/ school run/ shopping centres even on day out places such as the space centre and drayton manor).
Teens have always gone for less coverage haven't they? It's not a look I'd do. But she's clothed in a not particularly outrageous fashion, so I'd leave it until she hits the 20 mark and the world starts to feel cold.

[LIZS]

Very normal for a teen. Dd isn't into short tshirts/tops but many of her friends are. If your dd is sporty she is probably used to and comfortable dressing like this. Don't impose your inhibitions on her.

[Havingahorridtime]

But she isn't showing off her crotch and bum because they are covered by her leggings.
At 14 I would have worn leggings with a crop top.
Now I am the wrong side of 30 and have had children I like to wear long tops with my leggings to save the publics eyes.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

What is it you're afraid of? Comments from men? If that happens, they're the ones at fault



I hope OP isn't ripped to shreds, its entirely natural to want to protect a child from lecherous men. I don't think there is much she can do, but her desire to protect is entirely understandable

[MrsJayy]

Are you the same if she wears jeans you can see bum with jeans?

[Gileswithachainsaw]

She will still clearly be a child.

Anyone leering over a child would do so whatever she was wearing.

Let her wear what she is comfortable in.

[WindwardCircle]

I really hate the leggings with crop top or short top look. It's looks unfinished to me, basically like going out with tights on without a skirt or dress over them. However it is a fashionable look amongst teens now, and it is your daughter's right to pick her own clothes. I think you just have bite your tongue and let her be.

[Absintheshots]

It's a big "no" in my house. Sport leggings are fine to practice sport and that's it.

Black leggings are not trousers, they are underwear and look ridiculous on their own. Most girls wearing them have flabby butts, and look hideous. You don't even get away with it with a firm bum. Leggings as leggings are completely out of fashion anyway!

My teen is free to roam Primark, New Look and wherever she pleases and has a very generous clothes budget, as long as she is not wearing her underwear in the street. She did show me such an outfit once in a shop, and backtracked quickly when she saw me wearing the same one

[pasturesgreen]

I'm of the opinion that gym clothes belong to the gym only and abhor the current fashion for wearing leggings as if they were tracksuit bottoms (they're not!), but I realise I'm against the majority and am resigned to be seen as a grumpy not quite so old hag.

But no, imo YANBU OP.

[SaucyJack]

Depends on the leggings I think- not all are created equal. Going out in public without a proper trouser on looks unpleasant on anyone over the age of about 4.

Jeggings or Lycra gym-type ones are fine. Thin cotton ones-nope.

[ClaireH26]

Unless they're crotchless, how can you see her crotch?

[silkpyjamasallday]

This look was trendy when I was a teen and despite being slim enough to get away with it I never went for it as I thought it looked slovenly! But my mum was pretty strict about how I looked I was never allowed to dye my hair and I was never given enough pocket money to buy clothes myself so she had to approve of something if I wanted to get it. I think it rather stifled me and has affected me as an adult, I never wore really wacky outfits or have any funny fashion fails as a teen as I was essentially dressed as a middle aged mum until I started to get paid from my volunteer job - ballet flats, straight cut jeans, Breton top, cardigan, sensible coat/Barbour jacket. My parents were not impressed when I bought cut off Levi shorts and skirts from a vintage shop, the straggly bits looked scruffy you see, and they were much too short and yes the dreaded 'tarty' (and I purposefully avoided the super short ones they were probably mid thigh not crotch skimming) Let your dd wear what she wants and don't impose that she should cover up because men will look at her.

[AllllGooone]

It's just the fashion nowadays

[Finola1step]

It is pretty much a weekend uniform in the town where I live. Straight, glossy hair. Black leggings, black, trainers, crop top - not a tight crop top, just a t shirt which sits just above the waistband. Will be seen on the majority of girls aged 12-16.

Just as ripped jeans and Grolsch bottle tops on out DMs were the "uniform" when I was 13. Leave her be.

[MrsJayy]

Leggings are not under wear some or thinner than others i agree and spitpea through leggings are footless tights but leggings are trousers but really flabby bum

[tactum]

Thanks all, fully prepared to be told, and will leave her be. I think Windward hit the nail on the head - to me it may as well be tights and does't seem like a 'finished' look. My concern wasn't so much from a male point of view, but just whether it was 'acceptable' - on a woman I think it looks bloody awful.

I am fully on board with DD being a confident young woman who wears and does what she likes, I guess I am too bothered myself by what other people think and need to make sure she doesn't get that from me.

[ChicRock]

If the leggings are so thin that you can see her underwear then YANBU and she needs to be told - it's a bloody awful look.

[Blobby10]

tactum I'm with you on this one. It doesn't look 'right' somehow! My daughter (16) is very sporty and often wears recovery leggings with a hoodie and I'm forever telling her to cover her bum n bits properly.

I help run a girls rugby team and we insist that the girls wear shorts and not leggings (leggings fine under the shorts) because the leggings just show too much when worn with the close fitting club shirt.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

Something like the gap fit or next fitness leggings are good. Thicker.

[averythinline]

yes uniform here too....I'm not that fussed about what dc wear however if you can swop them to 'better quality' leggings I would as the thin ones look crap on anyone....or maybe waft in some jeggings

my Niece has worn nothing but leggings & shorts crop top or huge hoodie for about 2 years now driving her v fashion conscious mum mad - she was pleased at the addition of shorts, as was not keen on just leggings but the rotation of 2 pairs of denim shorts is wearing thin

[MrsJayy]

I think a lot of what is teen fashion looks daft but then I am not 14 and not wearing it.

[rightsofwomen]

Crikey. I wander around in my running kit and you can see that I have a bum and a crotch.

I'm decent enough.

[PinkHeart59156816]

If her leggings are so thin you can see her underwear then she needs better quality ones, it does appear to be a "fashion" with women lately but it looks bloody awful.

I do a lot of sports myself but I am pretty sure no one can see my arse or underwear via my leggings and nor would I want them too.