Every year we make a point of saying we don't want much for Christmas for us or the kids. We firmly say we are sticking to a £20pp budget and would appreciate if they did too. We make lots of noise about decluttering and what a lot of stuff we've got, how the kids have gadgets and toys coming out of their ears.
And then every year without fail we hand over a single bag of gifts to SiL and BIL and they fill our car up in return. This year it is FIVE bin bag size bags of presents. A bag full each.
It is equal to the amount we've bought the kids. Totally over budget and completely unnecessary.
I struggle with this every year because what can you do? We've tried everything we can think of. We've even said firmly that we don't want this much stuff and that they arent sticking to the budget. BiL is adamant that SiL is just an amazing shopper and finds bargains. This just isn't true. It's all brand new branded stuff. Lego sets etc, which I know are rarely reduced by much. Current clothes from shops I shop in, not sale stuff.
I find it awkward, embarrassing and tbf a bit controlling.
I refuse to compete, so our gifts look pathetic in comparison.
Please, if anyone has any fresh ideas how to stop this I'd be so so grateful. Short of dumping it all back on her doorstep I am stuck.
And I know how weird and ungrateful this sounds but its suffocating me.
(Also you have probably read this thread before as I think I post a version of it every year).
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HardLightHologram · 14/12/2016 23:33
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