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AIBU?

To not have immediately replied to this text?

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Applesandpears86 · 02/09/2016 21:57

I live just down the road from one of my closer friends. She doesn't drive and we live about 3 miles from our city centre (about a 10 min drive because of traffic).

This evening I was finishing work when I got a text from her asking if I would give her and her friend a lift into town 'to save money on us paying for a cab.'

I have a 50 mile commute and happened to be coming out of a meeting in a city 70 miles away when I got the text. Needless to say I didn't reply as I just wanted to get home.

I've just received another sarcastic message telling me not to worry as she decided to fork out for the taxi in the end 'but thanks for the response'.

AIBU to think this was bloody cheeky in the first place and to therefore not have been so arsed about responding?!

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Vvlgari · 02/09/2016 21:58

I think the words 'fuck off' are appropriate here.

123rd · 02/09/2016 21:58

Ergh, no. If you were driving home then you shouldn't have looked at the text anyway. Bloody cheeky her asking you.

Paddingtonthebear · 02/09/2016 21:58

^^. This

ilovesooty · 02/09/2016 21:59

Both her texts were unacceptably rude and I'd be telling her so - to her face.

Cherrysoup · 02/09/2016 21:59

Tell her what you just told us-you were 70 miles away, ffs! She is being incredibly unreasonable.

Applesandpears86 · 02/09/2016 21:59

Just to clarify; I wasn't driving when I looked at the text. I was in my car about to leave the car park.

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Wonkydonkey44 · 02/09/2016 22:00

She's taking the piss!

evelynj · 02/09/2016 22:00

Could she not walk? Do you owe her a massive favour or by any chance did you previously say you'd give her a lift? If not, she's an arse

MollyRedskirts · 02/09/2016 22:00

Do you have read receipts? If not, I'd be replying 'I was 70 miles away, and working, when you texted. I've only just seen it now. You owe me an apology.'

I wouldn't even mention whether you'd have given her a lift or not if you were closer. She's completely unreasonable, especially to assume you'll instantly respond!

John4703 · 02/09/2016 22:00

I agree with Vvlgari

Groovee · 02/09/2016 22:00

Rude and pisstaking!

Spiderpigspiderpig · 02/09/2016 22:01

She sounds very self centred

Balletgirlmum · 02/09/2016 22:01

How is she to know you wernt driving?

Very cheeky of her.

BastardGoDarkly · 02/09/2016 22:02

Cheeky cow! The brass neck on some people never ceases to amaze me.

Applesandpears86 · 02/09/2016 22:03

No I don't owe her any favours.

It riles me a bit that she won't fork out for a cab but expects me to drive her for free. As if the running costs of my car are zero!

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KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 02/09/2016 22:05

Wow. What did her last slave die of?

Nah, let me guess. She was killed texting whilst driving.

cardibach · 02/09/2016 22:06

I'd have sent her a text straight away saying I couldn't do it. Simplest all round.

cexuwaleozbu · 02/09/2016 22:07

Text back 'when your message arrived I had just started driving home from [birmingham] and it would have been illegal for me to read or respond to your message whilst driving.' - it is fair enough to give her an explanation.

Whether you add to that 'your sarky sense of entitlement evident in your messages has shown me a new side to what i had previously considered a friendship' or alternatively 'I would totally have been happy to help if I had been around, just ask a bit further in advance next time' should depend on how much of a giver or taker she is generally.

Charley50 · 02/09/2016 22:07

Totally taking the piss to ask in the first place. Lifts are for OH/ partners and elderly parents, not mates who cba to get a cab.

cardibach · 02/09/2016 22:08

To add to that, she's taking the piss massively and you do need to address that.

Beeziekn33ze · 02/09/2016 22:08

Maybe she'll be less keen to ask next time! Huge cheek!

Blueshoessingloose · 02/09/2016 22:09

She's not a friend.

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lalaloopyhead · 02/09/2016 22:15

Whaaat? I don't understand why she would ask in the first place - humongous cheek in itself! 'Im going into town, you're not invited but I'm too cheapskate to get a cab or bus' weird! You are certainly not U for replying immediately and she is incredibly U for the second!

Cheeky mare! I think I would reply with a '?'

pollyglot · 02/09/2016 22:17

What massively annoys me is that people think that you should be available to be contacted 24/7. I keep my mobile switched off, because it's not possible to take calls during working hours, and only check at lunchtime and after work. It just seems a massive piss-taking that you should respond to texts or calls immediately. And she has over-stepped the bounds of friendship.

ilovesooty · 02/09/2016 22:17

I'd go round and see her tomorrow to express my feelings. 5am might be a convenient time.

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