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AIBU?

Visiting friend brought a man home.

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RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 07:39

Not sure on this one. I live with dh in a little 2 bed. Friend has been staying with us all week whilst in our area with her work. We've had a lovely week. Last night she went out with some other people and brought a man home unannounced.

I feel really uncomfortable about this and also like it's a real cheek! She leaves today. We were going to have a nice breakfast but I dont want to make idle small talk with strangers in my own house first thing!

So... aibu to feel this way and wibu to say something?!

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TormundGiantsbabe · 21/05/2016 07:41

Why didn't you say something when she walked through the door with a stranger? He wouldn't have got past my front door and the friend would be on thin ice!

lilacclery · 21/05/2016 07:42

You are not bu at all!
Cheek personified!

Sparkletastic · 21/05/2016 07:44

That's appallingly bad manners. I would stay in my bedroom for breakfast with DH this morning if I were you. If anyone is going to treat your home like a hotel then it can be you two.

CuttedUpPear · 21/05/2016 07:45

Are you sure he's still there?

RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 07:45

I was in bed asleep and I think my dh was too shocked/surprised in the moment...

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JonSnowsBeardClippings · 21/05/2016 07:46

Did she bring him home pissed after a night out? No that's not ok!

acasualobserver · 21/05/2016 07:46

It definitely is a real cheek. Whether you say something, and you'd be entitled to, depends on whether you can be bothered with the ag. Personally, I'd let it go but make it clear that, if she stays again, no pick-ups.

DoItTooJulia · 21/05/2016 07:46

Wow, really rude. Does she know him or did she randomly pick him up?

I would not be happy with that at all.

RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 07:46

Don't know for sure if he's still there but I think so.

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witsender · 21/05/2016 07:47

Not ok. It isn't her home to bring strangers into!

RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 07:47

Dh said she was drunk. Might be a colleague? Def still here.

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Periggy · 21/05/2016 07:48

I think it's v cheeky ...but you'll probably have to British it out for now and then either have to say afterwards in private how uncomfortable it made you, or just not have her over again!

MadameJosephine · 21/05/2016 07:48

I'd wake them up and chuck them out, cheeky bugger!

QuiteLikely5 · 21/05/2016 07:49

I would send her a text right now

Xxxx can you please make sure the man you took back has left the house by 8am, thanks xxxxx

BendydickCuminsnatch · 21/05/2016 07:50

oh my god!!!!! I honestly have no idea what I'd do in that situation, I'd just be speechless!

AddToBasket · 21/05/2016 07:51

YANBU! Very cheeky - I wouldn't like that at all. But might be worth not saying anything this time as she is leaving today. Definitely say no extras if she comes to stay again.

Plus, if she got drunk and slept with a colleague she may really need a sympathetic ear!

acasualobserver · 21/05/2016 07:52

you'll probably have to British it out for now
Ha, ha! V.useful turn of phrase.

DoinItFine · 21/05/2016 07:52

Oh god, awkward.

Is she 19?

LyndaNotLinda · 21/05/2016 07:54

OMG that is outrageously rude. I'd not make breakfast at all and be icy cold. I don't think I'd even speak to a friend again if she did that.

Topseyt · 21/05/2016 07:54

Send QuiteLikely's text right now.

Cheeky mare. That was very presumptuous of her. Not at all OK. She wouldn't be staying at my place again.

RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 07:58

She is a couple years younger than me but def out of the student era! I've known her since secondary but with some big gaps. Tbh I didn't think she drank much... I'm struggling with getting my Very British Fingers to type that brilliant message up thread.

Thank you all though, it's nice to know I'm not being precious.

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Lweji · 21/05/2016 08:00

Let us know how breakfast goes.

I wouldn't invite her next either, and would make it clear that I didn't appreciate guests without warning.
I hope she at least apologises.

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AddToBasket · 21/05/2016 08:01

How old are you all and do you have DC in the house?

When me and my mates were 23 it was quite common to wake up with extras for breakfast and wouldn't have been too odd. Now (with DC and age) I'd think it was cheeky. It does depend a bit.

I think a text saying something like 'Is there a man here?! Get him to go now so we can discuss him!' That's how I would approach this with one of my friends.

bridgetoc · 21/05/2016 08:03

I would never invite her back, that's for sure!

Sunnsoo · 21/05/2016 08:03

Is he hot?

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