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Visiting friend brought a man home.

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RevealTheHiddenBeach Sat 21-May-16 07:39:37

Not sure on this one. I live with dh in a little 2 bed. Friend has been staying with us all week whilst in our area with her work. We've had a lovely week. Last night she went out with some other people and brought a man home unannounced.

I feel really uncomfortable about this and also like it's a real cheek! She leaves today. We were going to have a nice breakfast but I dont want to make idle small talk with strangers in my own house first thing!

So... aibu to feel this way and wibu to say something?!

TormundGiantsbabe Sat 21-May-16 07:41:54

Why didn't you say something when she walked through the door with a stranger? He wouldn't have got past my front door and the friend would be on thin ice!

lilacclery Sat 21-May-16 07:42:52

You are not bu at all!
Cheek personified!

Sparkletastic Sat 21-May-16 07:44:35

That's appallingly bad manners. I would stay in my bedroom for breakfast with DH this morning if I were you. If anyone is going to treat your home like a hotel then it can be you two.

CuttedUpPear Sat 21-May-16 07:45:32

Are you sure he's still there?

RevealTheHiddenBeach Sat 21-May-16 07:45:50

I was in bed asleep and I think my dh was too shocked/surprised in the moment...

JonSnowsBeardClippings Sat 21-May-16 07:46:05

Did she bring him home pissed after a night out? No that's not ok!

acasualobserver Sat 21-May-16 07:46:10

It definitely is a real cheek. Whether you say something, and you'd be entitled to, depends on whether you can be bothered with the ag. Personally, I'd let it go but make it clear that, if she stays again, no pick-ups.

DoItTooJulia Sat 21-May-16 07:46:17

Wow, really rude. Does she know him or did she randomly pick him up?

I would not be happy with that at all.

RevealTheHiddenBeach Sat 21-May-16 07:46:49

Don't know for sure if he's still there but I think so.

witsender Sat 21-May-16 07:47:20

Not ok. It isn't her home to bring strangers into!

RevealTheHiddenBeach Sat 21-May-16 07:47:53

Dh said she was drunk. Might be a colleague? Def still here.

Periggy Sat 21-May-16 07:48:17

I think it's v cheeky ...but you'll probably have to British it out for now and then either have to say afterwards in private how uncomfortable it made you, or just not have her over again!

MadameJosephine Sat 21-May-16 07:48:36

I'd wake them up and chuck them out, cheeky bugger!

QuiteLikely5 Sat 21-May-16 07:49:05

I would send her a text right now

Xxxx can you please make sure the man you took back has left the house by 8am, thanks xxxxx

BendydickCuminsnatch Sat 21-May-16 07:50:02

shockshockshock oh my god!!!!! I honestly have no idea what I'd do in that situation, I'd just be speechless!

AddToBasket Sat 21-May-16 07:51:34

YANBU! Very cheeky - I wouldn't like that at all. But might be worth not saying anything this time as she is leaving today. Definitely say no extras if she comes to stay again.

Plus, if she got drunk and slept with a colleague she may really need a sympathetic ear!

acasualobserver Sat 21-May-16 07:52:44

you'll probably have to British it out for now
Ha, ha! V.useful turn of phrase.

DoinItFine Sat 21-May-16 07:52:58

Oh god, awkward.

Is she 19?

LyndaNotLinda Sat 21-May-16 07:54:25

OMG that is outrageously rude. I'd not make breakfast at all and be icy cold. I don't think I'd even speak to a friend again if she did that.

Topseyt Sat 21-May-16 07:54:48

Send QuiteLikely's text right now.

Cheeky mare. That was very presumptuous of her. Not at all OK. She wouldn't be staying at my place again.

RevealTheHiddenBeach Sat 21-May-16 07:58:05

She is a couple years younger than me but def out of the student era! I've known her since secondary but with some big gaps. Tbh I didn't think she drank much... I'm struggling with getting my Very British Fingers to type that brilliant message up thread.

Thank you all though, it's nice to know I'm not being precious.

Lweji Sat 21-May-16 08:00:51

Let us know how breakfast goes.

I wouldn't invite her next either, and would make it clear that I didn't appreciate guests without warning.
I hope she at least apologises.

AddToBasket Sat 21-May-16 08:01:35

How old are you all and do you have DC in the house?

When me and my mates were 23 it was quite common to wake up with extras for breakfast and wouldn't have been too odd. Now (with DC and age) I'd think it was cheeky. It does depend a bit.

I think a text saying something like 'Is there a man here?! Get him to go now so we can discuss him!' That's how I would approach this with one of my friends.

bridgetoc Sat 21-May-16 08:03:08

I would never invite her back, that's for sure!

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