Dd in hospital in ITU - handhold please

[JackOfGentleman]

I did have a thread running yesterday but I can't seem to find it.

Basically, she took an overdose, we went to A&E, she was triaged, kept on the ward and I thought she'd be discharged today. Got to hospital this morning to find her back in resus after having multiple seizures with an abnormal heartbeat. She's now intubated in ITU in an induced coma and I am so scared I don't know what to do with myself. Do I sit down? Do I drink tea? I'm cold, do I put a jumper on? I'm just standing still in the relatives room staring out of the window.

Sugary tea, chocolate bar.
Just do what you feel in that moment.
Is anyone else allowed to be there with you?

Ask for a tea with sugar! Put a jumper on! Do you have support? Did you manage to get any rest last night? Look after yourself!

I'm so sorry you are going through this - sending you big hugs X

OP, my heart goes out to you. I have been there and I know the temptation to wonder what I could have done to prevent it happening. Could I have been a better parent? Just desperation that you love this child so much but cannot take their pain away. It has been such a totally crap 18 months for everyone but I think especially young people. They have all been surviving even more on a diet of online chat forums and endless social media comparisons about everything.
As others have said, cup of tea with sugar, ask for a blanket and see if they have anyone you can talk to. You don't have to be religious to ask if someone from chaplaincy can come and talk to you.
Don't be afraid to ask for updates although if she is in an induced coma, probably little will change until they decide to wake her up. Sending hugs hugs and prayers and positive thoughts to you now. This is NOT your fault either. x

for you OP. Sending prayers for your dd.

Hi OP I posted last night on your other thread as well. Just take each minute as it comes right now. Do you have any other friends or family members you can call - I know they probably won’t be allowed in the hospital due to covid but they can be on the phone supporting you? Bring you in a care bag with easy snacks, phone charger, change of clothes etc? Next time you are able to speak to her doctor, ask what’s the shortest time they expect to keep her sedated, that will help give you an idea of the kind of timescale you’re looking at.

Also, if you work, message your manager, because you won’t be at work on Monday.

So sorry. As PP says, one moment at a time,

You do whatever you want and need to do. I hope she recovers quickly .

Hang on in there OP. Sending you and your daughter all the strength and courage in the world

Was hoping to read a much more positive update. I’m so sorry OP, hope she turns a corner soon

So sorry OP. Sending love and prayers

Sending prayers your way

I’m so very sorry to hear this update.
Sending love and heartfelt prayers for a positive turn in her condition very soon.

I’m so sorry it’s not better news right now. Your dd is alive. Thank goodness.

I hope you’ve had a cup of tea by now. Get yourself warm. Ask for a blanket if it will help. Is there anywhere to get some food or can someone bring you some food in?

Have you had time for a rest?

@JackOfGentleman

I did have a thread running yesterday but I can't seem to find it.

Basically, she took an overdose, we went to A&E, she was triaged, kept on the ward and I thought she'd be discharged today. Got to hospital this morning to find her back in resus after having multiple seizures with an abnormal heartbeat. She's now intubated in ITU in an induced coma and I am so scared I don't know what to do with myself. Do I sit down? Do I drink tea? I'm cold, do I put a jumper on? I'm just standing still in the relatives room staring out of the window.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/4339985-Handhold-please-dd-in-A-E-Content-warning-Title-edited-by-MHNHQ

This is your other thread in case you want to check back to read the comments x

I’m thinking of you.

Do you work OP? If so, can you check if they provide an Employee Assistance Program who can be there for you at the end of the phone 24/7. It can be really helpful when you can see many face to face. Wishing for good news 💐

Hopefully the coma will give her body some time to recover from the impact of the overdose.
Thinking of you here OP .

So sorry, OP. It's a horrible feeling to feel so helpless about your child.

OP I'm so so sorry to read this.
I cannot imagine how scary this situation is for you. My daughter had a mental health crisis a couple of years ago and I felt so helpless, sick with worry and utterly bewildered.
I am sending so much love. She's in the best place and in the safest hands xxxx

I am so sorry to hear this.

Hopefully the coma will give her body tone to help heal itself. Can you have someone with you ?

I am very sorry to hear this OP.I hope today brings better news! Were you there all night? You must be shattered

So sorry OP.
You might be cold as you’re exhausted - is there anywhere you can try to shut your eyes?the nurses will come to you if you are needed.
Sending virtual hand hold🙂