I'll try and keep this brief. Me and my wife are at our wits end... it's been very stressful raising him, and it's not exactly paying off now that he is 23 and still living at home. I just want to connect with him.
He was always different and never likes what other boys like. While other boys are out playing football and going to the cinema he is either watching anim/anime or playing with his Pokémon cards or often downloading these Japanese games and watching esports. He doesn't get on well with other boys too... for example when he went on holiday with 3 other boys, they didn't speak to him afterwards and I now suspect they are trying to throw eggs at his window every few weeks. Whenever I pick him up from going to ComicCon or buying Pokémon cards, he never speaks to me. It's like I'm just his taxi driver, and he never tells me how he is feeling even though I always ask him. A few of his friends try to encourage him to speak to us but it just hasn't worked :(
This is kind of an urgent appeal. We have been good parents. Our other son is a canvasser and he seems to be successful.
What is more worrying is that he is negatively affecting our 6 year old son, . I often see them together in a room with the door closed and I think he is teaching him about anime and pokemon. It's really stressful because I want him to be free to do what he wants but if he turns out to be depressed and antisocial it will be a very grim repeat of our first son.
What do I do? I want to connect with him and encourage him to have friends and do normal things but I suspect he will continue on his path to self destruction. He stays at home at the moment while he's saving for a new flat. If he moves in himself I suspect we will lose him forever. But at least our youngest child might have a chance.
What do I do?
Edit: I forgot to add this, but I seen him dressing up as a woman once with shaved legs and arms... and I want to be supportive but he doesn't share anything with me. He told one of his friends he wanted to become a woman. Maybe we should get him tested or something?
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Needing help with my 23 y/o son...
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DavidBluetooth · 30/04/2017 22:38
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