Really going back to work then!!!

[wobblyknicks]

Feels so weird - don't start till next Monday but have a settling in session for dd at nursery today and not looking forward to it. The nursery seemed fine before, now I've started thinking its not that good and she'll be horribly unhappy etc etc etc. Very tempted to just forget the whole thing and stay at home .

I know its me and she'll probably be fine and it'll be fantastic to go back to work but still! And I know I'm not the only one who feels terrible doing this but just need a whine!

Theres no way round this is there.

You will feel horrible, no doubt about it.

I'm sure your sudden change in feelings about the nursery is just your last minute panic.

Just hang on in there, cos once you're both settled, things are great. I work parttime and love it because i get to use my brain and speak to adults! Then i feel the time i spend with dd is quality time and we both enjoy it.

Good luck!

Thanks fran, you're right - I can't wait to speak to adults regularly again and be able to do something useful besides clear up mega bloks! Really really hoping the nursery is going to be good

and you get to go to the loo on your own.......and go and get a coffee and drink it while it is hot!!!!

Lol bh, true - will be funny going to the loo alone and spending as long as I like without listening for crashing noises or yells!

Have put her in nursery now for her settling sesh - she didn't start crying so I just left, wasn't sure what to do for the best. Then they gave me the papers to sign and left me with a leaflet saying how gradually you should do it and how just walking out was such a bad idea - thanks!! Going back in 10 mins to see how she got on, scared stiff she'll have been crying for 2 hours solid and never be able to leave me again

I'm sure she will be fine. And end up being a very sociable happy little girl as a result.
Anyway you could always set yourself a DDay date - such as in 6 months time - really sit down and ask yourself if it suits your and DD - if not you can always leave work then, but you know you will have given it your best shot.
If you don't try, you'll never know...

Thanks wysiwyg - am sure she'll love it but have natural fears of her ending up some traumatised little thing because I dared to leave her

If she was fine when you left then she probably didn't need you to do the "leaving gradually" thing. I bet she's been having a great time. If she's anything like ds2 she may even cry because she doesn't want to leave!

Just got her back, looked in before I went in and she was smiling and clapping away and the staff said she'd been fine. She was more than happy to leave though and being a bit clingy now but maybe thats me putting a spin on her normal behaviour.

Have another 2 hour sesh on Thursday and then she'll be in for 8 hours Monday when I start training. Is that too big a jump, should I try and get her in for the afternoon (4 hours) on Friday to work her up to it or just go with Monday?

ct - how's ds2 doing in there now? More to the point, how are you doing - are you loving the extra time??

Awwww! Bless her! I would just go with the hours you've already got planned - unless of course you think that the extra session would put your mind at rest on Monday.

Sadly I only managed to get a few weeks of having a break. Being the jinx that I am, ds2's mini-playgroup had to close down because it couldn't get enough people interested. He loved it while he was there though and it's really made me feel better about how he (or rather, the staff!) will cope when he starts pre-school in the autumn. He's got a place at a playscheme in the summer holidays for a week with ds1 so I'll get a few child-free breaks then to make up for it.

aww glad she like it wobblyknicks my two have always liked nursery better than home What is the job then? is it part time or fulltime? Hope it all goes well, i seem to miss everyones news nowadays

PS coppertop, great news about the playscheme

Thanks ct - not sure about the Friday, just worrying that dd will have a panic attack going from 2 hours to 8 hours (no, thats probably just me!). Really sorry the playgroup had to close, but like you say at least you know what he's like somewhere else and you can look forward to the playscheme!!

Fio, bonkerz only posted it (and made me come out of my MN break) on Friday so you haven't missed that much. It's mortgage telesales - alternating weeks of 30 and 36 hours. The hours are really good, get either late afternoon/evening or all morning with dd so won't be missing too much