New job and work trip yes or no

[MotherofBoysandDragons]

I have been offered a job I never thought I'd get. It's two steps up from my current role and it excites and scares me at the same time.

It would mean so much more financially for my family (8yo and 3yo and husband). Though, it would mean going back to a 5 days job (3 in the office 2 from home).

I have been informed the first week would be a trip abroad for 4 days in March. I haven't left my 3yo for more than 1 night before and he's very clingy with me at night.

For this reason I am thinking to turn down the job. Everything else about the job excites me. My husband thinks I should just go. It will be a one off and not regular.

Thoughts??? Thanks so much

Oh, I'm with your husband, you'd be crazy to turn it down over a four day trip away. I think you would really regret it if you did.

Don't turn it down. This will be the perfect opportunity for father child bonding.

Go for it.

Think about the benefits to the 3 years old beyond that first few days. Turning it down for that reason is a very big deal. Make sure. You think really hard about it before doing so. I think it’s really really worth trying to convince yourself to go. Your dc will be fine and I’m assuming your dh will be around tk
look after him?

Go. Go. Go.
Don’t insult your husband by thinking he had your son cannot figure it out together ;)

Go for it. I've always worried about stuff like this, but if you aren't actually there I find kids adapt and settle happily for the other parent

Don't turn down the job. Your 3 year old will be 4 soon, then 5. Even if DC find the first trip away hard it will only get easier. By contrast, if you let this opportunity go it will be only ever harder to reach it again. In fact, the chance is probably is a total one off given the stats about working mothers. Grab it!

Definitely go! Your son and husband will be fine!

Go! Your three year-old will be fine. My DC also had to put up with me going abroad when they were little and I was more more emotional about it than they were. If I was flying out at the weekend they used to come with me to the airport, have a snack at an airport cafe and wave me off through security.

Let DH develop his relationship. He will be fine. Go!

you'd be mad to turn it down

On the whole I think take the job.

But what does it say in the job spec or contract about frequency of trips abroad? Can you trust them not to send you abroad every month? Would that be a deal breaker if they did?

Thanks for your response. There isn't an expectation past this. Perhaps another in a year or so however they are launching this new department and I'd be a part of this. Therefore they are bringing together all global employees in this new venture to meet and collaborate on the new initiatives through the 4 day trip.

Go, you'll be fine

The worry has already given me an anxiety I didn't expect which is why I'm really questioning it. I can't believe I got this role. I can't believe any of it's happening and I feel bad for prioritising myself. I guess it has been years since I have really done anything for myself bar a dinner with pals or a one night spa. My work has been on the back burner whilst I raise the kids. I just didn't expect something at this level for a little while longer...maybe when he'd be at school.

Yes a part of me thinks wow what a step in my career but the other side feels like I am being selfish.

Go for it - this job has the potential to be so beneficial for the whole family - and four nights away is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. It might be a different consideration if it was a regular thing, but it won't be. The first night will be a little hard - probably for you both - but children are remarkably resilient... just make sure you bring a present back with you for them both!

Yes my DH will be there for those days. He works from home so would be really present with the drop offs, pick ups, dinner etc. My youngest doesn't even really like going to bed now with me not around. I guess maybe time to break that clingy cycle. Just feel it'll be so tough on my OH but then it's only 4 days.

What's wrong with being 'selfish'? Which I don't think you are, you are still your own person, not just mum to your kids. Go for it and enjoy it!

You’d be crazy to turn it down. This is just the part of your brain that wants to stay in your comfort zone trying to offer you a way out. Don’t take it.

Good point. I didn't expect so much encouragement to go for it. A few other mums I asked said they wouldn't do it. Thank you 😊

True. I am thinking of all of our comfort zones tbh. It's just always so much easier with me around

Doooooooo iiiiiiiitttttt!!@@@

You can't give up on all of that opportunity for 4 days! Easy doesn't necessarily mean good, we develop when we're pushed a bit. Go for it, they'll be fine. Otherwise you'll spend your whole life thinking what if....

Eek I think I might!!