What should I say to my co-worker who got my name for secret Santa and the gift is no good?

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Unfortunately, she gave me a used present. Also, the instructions were to buy a new gift for people. I'm a UK size 6 and she got me a navy and dark green tartan dress in a UK size 20 😱. I'm shocked and confused, but the gift was accompanied by a Christmas card saying she can't wait for me to comment on it (the dress) when we're back at work after the holidays. What shall I tell her? I have no option but to give it to charity. The dress is sooooo big, I could get two other people in it with me 🤷

This, or write a passive, i mean aggressive, email to everyone telling the world and treating everyone like they are 5. Then stage a sit in at work and refuse to do anything until they buy you a Tiffany necklace

Better than my secret Santa, I didn't get anything

She's probably pissed off that she has so far not appeared in your MN litany of crappy co-workers and this is her bid for her 15 minutes of fame.

Every Secret Santa I've ever taken part in has included lots of dud/joke/stupid presents - isn't that the point? You are meant to open them at work (usually at the Christmas party/lunch) and all have a laugh at the joke ones. That's why there's a £5 price limit.

I would privately ask her if she was my secret santa - if she said yes, I would say, oh, ok, and leave it at that.

if she questioned anything, I would say the card said to ask or something, I can't remember exactly what it said

If she asked if I liked the dress, I would say unfortunately it's a size 20 and I'm a 6, so I hope she doesn't mind but I took it back to a charity shop and I really don't mind, more money goes to cancer research or whoever, so everybody wins. I would smile and say this happily and follow up with asking how her Christmas was.

I think there's every chance someone else bought it and put her name on it.

I would also not join in the secret santa next year, if I'm still there.

I reckon that's it, she did it on purpose as a wind-up, that's why she wants you to comment on it!