What should I say to my co-worker who got my name for secret Santa and the gift is no good?

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Unfortunately, she gave me a used present. Also, the instructions were to buy a new gift for people. I'm a UK size 6 and she got me a navy and dark green tartan dress in a UK size 20 😱. I'm shocked and confused, but the gift was accompanied by a Christmas card saying she can't wait for me to comment on it (the dress) when we're back at work after the holidays. What shall I tell her? I have no option but to give it to charity. The dress is sooooo big, I could get two other people in it with me 🤷

How very virtuous.

The only thing that's made your halo slip, is your fake surprise that other adults do infact take part in Secret Santa 🙄

Maybe it's a practical joke and someone else swapped the present for the one she bought you so that you'd think she bought you a crap present

I bought a lovely present for someone for a secret Santa but my gift was swapped for a joke gift by one of that persons friends at work

Is it a game?

Like here is a very expensive but wrong size dress

Can't wait for your comments, buy a new gift for other people?

I would say something like,
"Thanks for the dress. it's really funny. I put it on, and we all had a laugh (even the dog/cat - delete as appropriate - but not literally, ha-ha), I think I'll do what you did and put it into next years Secret Santa."

Still laughing...😂🤣😂

What, like the dress Joy wore in the Dr Who Christmas special? Wear it and you might meet a dinosaur and become a star.

The label was on it 😮

Stupid comment ?????

Post a pic of it here, we would love to see.

Say "Thanks colleague, I have to confess I regifted it in a family secret santa without unwrapping but my aunt sent me a thank you card so you must have made a good choice!"

Shows you didn't really place any value on her gift and that it didn't have the desired effect which was to upset you.

I’d just say thanks and that it’s a lovely dress. Nothing else. She’s done it to get a reaction, hence why she put her name in the card. Ignore it.

If you can sew, convert it to fit you size 6 figure.

I’d just say thanks and that it’s a lovely dress

Why should she lie?

Maybe the giver was jealous of the OP's very slim figure.

Yeah, pic or it didn't happen! 🤭📷

"I am afraid it was a size 20 and I am a size 6 so I could not try it on, but I have donated it". Done.

the gift was accompanied by a Christmas card saying she can't wait for me to comment on it (the dress) when we're back at work after the holidays.

how bizarre- why should you be forced into commenting about what sounds like a tartan sack.

id just ignore and don't be drawn on it. Hopefully in Jan it will all be forgotten and you can get back to normal.

Perhaps someone else got your name in the draw, bought the dress as a joke and put the other person’s name on the card.

This!! It's Secret Santa for crying out loud. I have never known anyone take it so seriously as people on MN.

Take a pic of you wearing it if you can be bothered and if she asks say “Oh it was sized quite a bit too big for me so I passed it on so someone else could enjoy it.”

It’s so obviously NOT from her- it’s someone trying to stir up trouble between you, knows you’re the sort to kick up a fuss and wants to embarrass the colleague whose name they’ve written in the card

Because what’s the point in giving the nasty twat the satisfaction of reacting to it all? I’d be pretending I loved it just to fry their head!

Oh that’s a good point.

I don't understand why you need to find something to say..... Just be honest. Pull her to one side and say "I appreciate the gift but unfortunately it is not my size. If I bring it tomorrow could you please exchange it to my correct size please? I'm a size 6...... Thanks lovely"

Let’s take a step back here….had it been a friend or family member you would say I think you got the size wrong and put it down to a mistake.

as it’s a work colleague the feeling in this chat is that it was meant nasty - to be perfectly honest if avoid these types of games at work. Work colleagues are exactly that work colleagues. Enjoy what you can from the day but have no expectations that they are your friends or have your best interests at heart. Over years I have kept in touch and become friends with a very small number of people I have worked with.

Say thank you and move on with your life. Secret Santa gifts are rarely good. The charity bin wins most of the time.