What should I say to my co-worker who got my name for secret Santa and the gift is no good?

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Unfortunately, she gave me a used present. Also, the instructions were to buy a new gift for people. I'm a UK size 6 and she got me a navy and dark green tartan dress in a UK size 20 😱. I'm shocked and confused, but the gift was accompanied by a Christmas card saying she can't wait for me to comment on it (the dress) when we're back at work after the holidays. What shall I tell her? I have no option but to give it to charity. The dress is sooooo big, I could get two other people in it with me 🤷

You say thank you.

If she asks if you've tried it on you say yes, it's very pretty, thank you.
If she asks if you'll wear it to work you say no you feel its more of a going out outfit.

Either she's given you a massive dress to be a cow, in which case you not reacting will piss her off

Or, somehow, she's clueless, in which case being rude about it will only upset her.

No, just her name in the Christmas card. It's supposed to be secret 🤷

£5? Say nothing, give the dress to charity and forget it.

Say thank you and move on. It’s not worth making a big deal about it, it’s so minimal.

You seem to have a lot of problems with social/etiquette things at your workplace OP. Sounds a very strange place. Maybe time to move on next year?

I've never had a decent Secret Santa gift from work, I just shrugged and gave them to charity!😂

I'm looking! Please pray for me 🙏

Sounds like she doesn't like you. Is she the one you offended with a card?

No, another. I think I'm surrounded by a bunch of nuts 🤦

Do you like the dress? If so get it altered to fit. If not, give it to charity. Yes it's crap but people are often shitty at secret Santa.

Prayers? Not your woman for those I’m afraid.

Wear it to work, and say ‘Look what my Secret Santa bought me!’

What An unusual present for a work secret santa

This. Good grief - what’s happened to basic courtesy? For any gift, whether you like it or not, surely you just say politely say thank you. So many passive aggressive and outright aggressive suggestions here. Over A Five Pound Gift.

Is March into the office and hold it up so everyone can see and declare loudly,

' Linda, on what planet would a dress this humungous size fit me? It's secondhand as well! What on earth made you five it to me for the Secret Santa? You can have it back!'

Good luck with finding a new job. Sounds like a very cliquey place to work and they haven't really accepted you.

I'd alter the dress and wear it to work just once (with black knee high boots) but I'm passive aggressive when someone is clearly trying to get a rise out of me. Not that I'd need to take in a size 20 by much 😂

Size 6 vs size 20 is too a big a difference for this to be an accident, surely?

Can you fit into the dress with someone else? If so, I'd be tempted to take a funny picture of the two of you in the same dress, holding up a charity shop bag!

I’m sorry, maybe I’m an ungrateful cow but if asked I’d just tell her well it was a size 20 and I’m clearly not a size 20 so unfortunately I haven’t been able to wear it.

What else could she expect buying a dress 7 sizes too big - ok maybe she didn’t know your exact size but 1. You clearly aren’t a size 20 and 2. That’s why you don’t buy clothes for a £5 secret Santa!

Whats wrong with the usual smellies or a bloody candle?

For a fiver, I'd laugh and forget about it. If asked, say thank you.

Move on. It's a fiver fgs.

Get over it, it was a £5 gift that wasn't really appropriate but not worth any effort over.

What do you think January’s passive-aggressive drama will be? Seems like two weeks can’t go by without one there.

That’s beyond weird though. I don’t get it? What a waste of £5.

Where can you find a dress for a fiver? Especially one that's used more material.

Rock up to the office wearing it and loudly tell everyone it’s your secret Santa gift 😂

This is clearly a case of bullying on the part of the co-worker. They have manipulated the 'brief' of Secret Santa to present a second hand gift (not averse to recycling) that is clearly far too large for the intended recipient. The sole intent was to embarrass and ridicule the OP and larger people in general.
A nasty and vicious act by a totally disgusting moronic fuckwit!