Should I report this to HR or get over myself?

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Hi Mumsnetters!
An incident happened at work where I'm no longer able to relax, or feel like myself. If I am being honest, I'm left feeling traumatized and scarred.
I had a friend at work, lets call her Jane who was unhappy at her department. Because I noticed that and wanted to help, I asked Jane to move to the department I'm working in and replace me, as I was going on maternity leave. I recommended her to my manager, helped her fill out the application form and she got the role.
Once she started working in my team, I trained her and we shared a close bond with each other. Just before I went on maternity, she organised a farewell gathering for me. Jane was also made permeant within my team.
However during my leave, Jane was struggling in my team as another coworker was not pulling her weight in and my manager (Sarah) got promoted, and hired another manager to replace her (let's call this new manager John).
Now Jane hated john as she felt he was incompetent. Sarah asked Jane to train John, which she hated. Jane spread rumours about John, saying he was inefficient and when Jane had problems about John's work, she complained straight to Sarah instead of dealing with John directly. Sarah eventually had enough of this as Jane kept on complaining for months and asked Jane to move departments if she is struggling with john.
I recently came back to work from maternity and one of the first things I noticed is that Jane is not doing as much work. Which I thought fine, she can do whatever and I will focus on my job.
Last week, Sarah called me about a minor question regarding my work but I was not available to pick up. So Sarah called Jane instead, hoping she can assist her.
As a result of this, in our group chat, Jane messaged @Lara do this task and contact X and you have written this draft wrong.
Jane then privatley messaged me to say she cant take calls on my behalf as she has her own work load, this is challenging for her and requested me to keep on top of my work to ensure good communication and workflow.
Now obviously I'm left upset as she has exposed me on the group chat, the way she had written her message to me has left me feeling like a naughty child. I am also worried that Jane might fixate on me, in order to find faults like she did with John.
What would you do if you were me?

I honestly wish it was so easy for me to just block it out and stop thinking about this. To just get over myself and stop caring

Personally I think it should all be dropped now . If John wanted Jane to be present then surely he can discuss it with her privately when she returns.

I know you’re worrying but you’re worrying about something that hasn’t happened. A lot of us gently suggested speaking to your gp about anxiety, have you managed this?

I understand that feeling but yes I think you've way over thought this.

Right but it's a phone call. She should be able to handle a phone call.

It is very likely managers and team members are well aware of what Jane is like so I really wouldn't worry

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She is causing trouble whereever she goes. Keep well away and move on.

This is exactly what I wanted.
For him to speak to her privately so that we can all move on.
But no. He wants to raise this with the whole team present. No doubt that Jane will defend herself to make me look bad in front of everyone.

In all honesty I'd look for another job this one sounds like too much playground politics

I would also suggest you seek therapy. To be honest having a child can bring up all kinds of issues that need to be resolved.
Also has your organisation laid on any sessions to help you return to work? I would expect at least weekly check-ins with your line manager. I would also advise you to be honest with them about your "imposter syndrome" and feeling nervous about returning to work.
I am at present covering someone's maternity leave and do feel sorry for how many changes she will find when she returns.
It is hard. And if they are worth working for they will support you. You may also now see that sometimes the Jane's of this world are partly responsible for their own problems.

You don't need work help, you need anxiety help. I would start with a trip to the GP. Anxiety meds changed my life.

This is perfect.

Oh threads moved on. Im going to read between the lines (or attempt to) and offer some possible scenarios.

Short version: it's not about you.

John is fed up of Janes behaviour towards him, but feels that he can't address it for some reason. However he absolutely can address the same behaviour when you're the target.

It's possible that your incident is the latest in a string that you're unaware of. Other staff have complained of similar.

In your OP you mention that Jane was fed up with another person not pulling their weight, and that she kept complaining that her new LM John was inefficient. She is done picking up other people's work and is making it visible to her LM. Think of this as her quiet quitting.