Meeting with manager is weird

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She documents our entire hour conversation. She makes notes against each action point in the weekly meeting and states whether I've met the deadline, when I sent an email, what I have specifically said in the meeting. When I was late and the reason given. I get sent a copy of the meeting 'report' afterwards. I find this really weird and like I'm being 'attacked' because it quite often reveals my shortfalls rather than highlighting my achievements. Never any praise. Is this a normal management style?

Yeah agree with the above. Red pen indeed 🤦‍♀️ - matched with her other behaviour I'd guess is deliberately psychological to make you feel inferior.

Head down, work to rule and get out ASAP is my advice. You are not suited to this management style (not sure who is!) and it will grind you down the longer you stay.

It is horribly dehumanising working for someone who micromanages. It's a recognised form of bullying. What you have there is someone who clearly exhibits traits of low trust, control, intimidation and deliberately skewing their feedback to the negative.

its very often a person who lacks self-esteem and feels threatened by good people, someone who believes leadership is being the top dog and making sure everyone in their team is a subordinate, to keep in check and prevent from shining.

You sound great at your job, you don't need to be (micro)managed, you need to be empowered, trusted and recognised for your contributions. The hallmarks of a person like this is low staff retention, which you've confirmed is the case if your predecessor left after 6 months - you're just coming up to that same timeframe and you're feeling shite.

That's a valid emotion - you may not remember what she said, you may not remember what she did, but you'll always remember how she made you feel ....
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Sounds like you’ve had your card marked, OP. I’d keep my head down, work my hours, and start looking for alternative employment if I were you.

Remember that HR are not your friends - they exist to protect the company from its employees - so if your boss has set her heart on a little covert constructive dismissal, the company will not side with you.

Is she quite a new/ inexperienced manager, OP?

This is all I can think of that might explain her management style.

As a new manager, it can feel quite pressured and like you need to keep on top of things, and it's not always easy to have insight into how that is coming across to your staff. If she's fairly new to it I'd try to give her a bit of a break.

I found it hard to remember to praise staff and be a friendly/ supportive presence for the team when I first started in management, because there was just so much to wrap my head around.

If she's a very experienced manager though, she should know better than this by now.

Oh dear OP. Just leave. The red pen!! I am a manager and there is SO much wrong with all of this.
One thing I always do in 121s is a general statement of where I think the team member is against their goals. It’s pretty casual. Just a stated and documented sentence that I am happy they are on track, behind or exceeding expectations for the role. If exceeding in any area that’s emphasised. If behind I give specific feedback on that and work with them to make an action plan. what would yours say?

Does your wellbeing and stress levels get any attention? Or is it just pure demands, criticism and control? Ugh.
Please insist on an exit interview with someone that’s not her. If it doesn’t happen email big boss/HR to document you’re leaving because of bullying micro management.

She's very experienced.
I'm going to avoid her as much as possible.