Any other quiet quitters?

[SupremeCommanderServalan]

Am struggling working in a toxic workplace. I've been trying and failing to get out, having applied for countless jobs in the past couple of years. But the reality is I'm burnt out. So I need to look at coping strategies and quiet quitting is one of them. Does anyone want to join me, or what to share any tips?

I'm definitely at a place with my bully of a manager that I'm only going to do what's required and no more. It's shame on them because I was always so willing and all I really needed was a bit of a pat on the head (stupidly)

They can get to fuck now.

I'll join you. Only been there 4 months but by far the most toxic workplace I've encountered, bullying, cliquey, just awful. I'm quiet quitting. Will give it a while then start hunting again!

My old job was like that. I applied for so many and got no where. I did the bare minimum, I had Teams on my phone so I could go out and still 'be online". My manager was a bully too, and a nice bit of age discrimination too from them.

I went on holiday to Ibiza and something inside me changed. Came back and applied for the job I have now. Its so different and so much better. I don't have to pretend to be online as my boss doesn't mind if I go out during the day as long as I do my work.

Don't give up. But also take a break from everything including job hunting. You come back with a fresh head.

Agree with taking a break even if its just a short one from job applying/interviews. I interviewed for 6 jobs in a short space of time whilst with a previous toxic employer. I was offered each of those jobs but turned them down after much dithering as I was worried I would be in another toxic environment. I did interview again, did really bad at interview as I was so worn out with it all. Was offered the job and took it and ended up in another awful workplace. Doesn't make a great deal of sense but next time round I'll be even more diligent, but perhaps won't dither so much!

Yep.

I quiet-quitted today. I am done. I started a new role 6 months ago and yet again it is the same nightmare.

I have worked for charities most of my career an almost every time the same pattern repeats itself:

I am hired to do a job on a part-time basis (I have a disability so can only work part-time) but within a couple of months I am then asked to deliver a full time workload that would actually even require an actual team of people with different skills to be properly delivered.

I just can't do it anymore.

So I am going to cruise for the next few months while I plan a strategy to exist this sector entirely. I am too old for this...

Me!

it’s so weird because I was looking through my camera roll and remembered that this time last year I was given 3 awards for my performance and impact and generally through the year got a £200 bonus (which is unheard in public sector).

but then my manager changed and my new manager basically stripped away all my confidence. I used to shine very brightly at work and was always told I need to apply for promotion and how brilliant I am etc - that’s all gone now. I feel like everyone actively dislikes me.

Yes me. Overworked and unappreciated. Have had a cold today - would have usually soldiered on but just couldn’t be arsed anymore. I need to be more like all the others at work - not bothered about doing a crap job and leave it to someone else to sort out.

I quiet quit in September. I always went above and beyond and got nothing but grief. Not worth the effort.

I changed departments around then and the new management just weren't worth the effort frankly -
I went there riding high on a good reputation and quickly became persona non gratis because my face and opinions didn't fit.

Now months later and I've recently done a tiny bit of visible (very good!) work and everyone is losing their minds over it.

Gave me the opportunity to say frankly that yes I have the capability but it's not a given I will apply it - they have to make it worth my while as I'm going to get paid the same whether I half arse it or over apply myself. They aren't sure what to do with this...

There are certain people I still go above and beyond for because they're worth my effort and they appreciate and reciprocate it.

Quiet quitting is great 😊

Yep. I used to be very committed and engaged, even in utterly toxic workplaces. And now I am in a spectacularly badly run energy sapping place with bloody awful management and I really don't care any more. I am counting down the years until retirement although there are still far too many for me not to try to get out into a less toxic workplace! I was on track to be self employed 100% and then COVID came along...

Welcome all to a particularly crappy club to be a member of.

Like many/all of you I have worked extremely hard, and been a conscientious grifter, only to see more and more of my frankly hopeless colleagues getting promoted way above their abilities. It's soul destroying..

I never thought that I would be in this position, but I have made the conscious decision to quiet quit; to no longer put the work in that I have been doing, because at the end of it all, I am not valued for it so there is little point in bothering.

@Greenfairydust are you me?

I moved into charity 5 years ago and have found the organisations I’ve seen awful! Poor safeguarding, a huge focus on strategy but no implementation; ceo who doesn’t know how to balance team workload; awful financial management; 100s of hours in zoom meetings; poor value for money due to inadequate research/planning. I could go on….

After loads of research I moved into a new role 2 months ago. It’s better but still poor, and no one seems fussed about making it better.

Im doing the minimum and looking for a role back in business…….

To be honest, applying for jobs is a full time job in itself. It’s hard to devote 100% energy to both work and applications - pulling back the effort at work allows you to focus on your long term plan

@Namechange224422

Indeed! it is a shame that so many charities are like this.

I had 10 good years working in the sector then it went downhill from that...I found the same issues over and over.

Today I was told a staff member had complained about the fact that I had used a particular shade of blue to design a leaflet (I work in communications) and made a huge drama of it and even mentioned it in front of the CEO. Rather than simply telling me directly she would prefer another colour.

It is that amount of stupidity and pettiness that keeps dragging me down.

I am sure the people who seek our help don't give a damn if the information leaflet they are given is designed with a particular shade of blue or not. They just want the info on the support the charity can provide them...

@Greenfairydust yes, and whilst you’re redesigning and reprinting the leaflets (or having meetings to discuss why not) time and money is spent on that rather than the service users…..

Infuriating isn’t it!

Quiet quit today!

Stayed later than anyone else on Friday evening slogging my guts out. Spent the weekend sleeping or in a ball of tension. I was wrecked.

Got in this morning and my line manager had forwarded me something which included a comment from the big boss which has made me realised how utterly little they respect me. I don't even get paid very much. Fuck this shit.

I am quiet quitting but I can't quit as I left my previous job quite quickly and can't have two blips like that on my CV! I'll have to stick it out for a bit, which is the beauty of quiet quitting.

Line manager's face was so gormless and shocked when I didn't leap to help with something that is NOT MY JOB today. They have got the message I think.

Welcome @VerySneakySir !

I have found my people!

how do I quiet quit when my twat boss is so involved in my work? We have meetings about various things every day?

I like the rest of my colleagues - sadly my line manager is a toxic dinosaur. I wonder if I should tell HR but the hassle of it seems beyond me

I have the opposite problem @Newgirls! Totally clueless, disengaged boss who would just ignore my work and leave it there for me even if I got hit by a bus. But an overbearing boss is awful too, so sympathy but no advice I'm afraid!

I’m joining the club!

Finding it very difficult to engage right now. I think I burnt out on a project last year and now just can’t be arsed any more. I am now on a new (bigger) project - heaven knows how I’m going to deal with toxic management on this one!

How do you get to that sweet spot of doing enough but not putting yourself out any longer?

I found this funny today. I’ve been coasting and doing F all for months now at work. Now my manager wants me to take on a project that I led last year as I apparently did such a good job. That same project that she also cancelled as it wasn’t a priority for her…which led to me silently quitting to begin with!

goldilocks bosses in the middle somewhere would be good!!

being left alone is good isn’t it? Or does that mean no help/guidance?

no training as such for me - just constant criticism

How do I quiet quit regarding twat colleague who isn't happy I provided exactly what they asked but has now realised they actually needed something else and is trying to pin it on me for doing it wrong. They've sent me two emails so far with 'feedback' (read: not very nice or fair criticism) and has twice asked me for a meeting. I've used the "project deadline / annual leave" excuse to not meet them but I can't keep that up. Can I just ignore them and hope they go away? In short, their inability to do X is not my problem (or job). There's a whole bunch of twat colleagues who want me to teach them to do MY job instead of staying in their lane. This is the charity sector. I'm also bloody sick of my manager's manager changing numerous times despite both in who does it and what that role involves, despite not needing a change, I suspect my lovely manager is also quiet quitting and will quit for good before long :(

There is just so much work. Such a heavy workload and I'm totally on my own in a separate room, so don't see anyone unless they're asking me to do more work for them! On Friday I was helping other people in the same 'team' and that's how I got behind and ended up stuck late at work on Friday while everyone else fucked off home 😑

When I started my manager was all about us being more of a team...yes, except not one person can or will do any of my work. I cover someone else's lunch break every day and last week I did not have a lunch break once.

@storminamooncup that's very tricky. I think the quiet quit version would be to keep saying you can't make a meeting? Or just go along and contribute nothing? Don't know

@Newuswr i just checked I didn’t write your reply… could have said every word. New manager has removed my autonomy and confidence. I was very low (scarily so) but I’ve pulled through and I’m bimbling along. I applied for a job and didn’t get it because I was “beyond that level” So I’ve applied for 2 more jobs and have an interview lined up, just waiting on the other. Really hoping I can get out because I worry I’ll reach the point of being signed off and what impact that’ll have on my career long term.

manager is a bully and I currently have a long log of her language and behaviour that would constitute constructive dismissal. Up until October I’d worked in the same place in 2 roles over 9 years and loved it. I keep reminding myself, I haven’t changed but I don’t thrive when being bullied! I do the job but know more than that.

I did..I left general practice recently..absolutely no idea what else to do but I was so burnt out there was no sensible career planning to be done until I was out. Scraping by with bits of minimum wage work, so MUCH poorer but so so so much happier. I'll have to find a different job in a few months but I will never do that again, very happy to get significantly less pay long term.