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Any other quiet quitters?

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SupremeCommanderServalan · 17/04/2023 15:09

Am struggling working in a toxic workplace. I've been trying and failing to get out, having applied for countless jobs in the past couple of years. But the reality is I'm burnt out. So I need to look at coping strategies and quiet quitting is one of them. Does anyone want to join me, or what to share any tips?

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Tortiemiaw · 27/04/2023 13:06

I did! I was so upset - and had been rally stressed out by the subtle bullying and 'banter' (cough) for a long time, so at this point, dh said 'just leave!'.

They were so pleased to get rid of me I got 2 months pay, so managed for a bit then got somewhere where I am treated with resect.
It's so hard coming from a toxic workplace, but so worth it!

Tortiemiaw · 27/04/2023 13:08

As far as issues about leaving - I'd been there several years so it was easy to say I 'needed a change'. Also, I have skills and knowledge that make me an easy fit in several of the sectors I'm in, if that makes sense.
I'm now comfortable enough at my job that I can talk a little about things that happened there - I'm not the only one who went through it so it's becoming more well known

WinchSparkle80 · 27/04/2023 13:31

I QQ in my last job, it was the only way to stay mentally well as the culture was incredibly toxic and no mgmt to speak of. It was actually brought up at my exit interview as it had been noticed…. lucky I am off then I said. I did provide some constructive feedback but sometimes QQ is needed for self preservation.

As long as you do your actual job well, you can be at peace with yourself and that is so important.

WinchSparkle80 · 27/04/2023 13:56

Also I moved around jobs 6 months, then 11 months and when asked, I said the workplace was toxic and we didn’t share the same values on integrity- never causes an issue

Mochinated · 27/04/2023 13:58

Always remember they are quiet paying you (not pay a penny more regardless of your effort)

.. and if you stay, actually decreasing your salary in real terms each and every year unless you get an inflation beating raise...

Yutes · 27/04/2023 14:16

I have been quiet quitting for sometime. I have worked blimming hard for years; was pretty much left to work solo in the office in lockdown so that everyone else could social distance at home; would stay late, start early, offer to do over time.
I still occasionally start early if it suits (for time in lieu).
I let some of the work filter down to other colleagues too, which is as it should be. My martyr and bully of an ex manager lead staff to believe that the place would crumble if you also did not martyr yourself, and after some health issues, I just can do it anymore.
lots of peace and ass kicking to you all

VerySneakySir · 27/04/2023 16:59

Was it on here someone said "it is not your fault they are short staffed"? That's been in my head today. I was definitely taking too much on because "we're short staffed". But I seem to be the only one who never gets help but who is always covering other people. Riddle me that!

Anyway, all fine today. Took my lunch break and left at my finish time. I did agree to do some cover but I'm not the only person doing it (which is highly unusual), so I don't actually mind so much. I've also said I'll only do it if I'm not snowed under. Want to get out on time tomorrow!

Biscuitlover456 · 27/04/2023 17:18

@VerySneakySir yep. You’ve got to let some of the plates drop instead of masking the staffing shortage created by management’s unwillingness to hire adequate numbers of people.

I have found my own “plate-dropping experiment” extremely challenging to my view of my working self - I’ve always been someone who gets on with things, has a high output rate, does extra, learns new skills, contributes to the team and wants to be helpful so this feels very uncomfortable.

My job carries a workload which is really for two people and I managed to keep up for a little while, at detriment to myself and my wellbeing. But now doing the work of one and starting/leaving on time means there are things which just won’t get done, and I have to just say: not my problem! It says nothing about my skills and abilities: I am still good at what I do. I’m just going to stick to the amount of it they pay me for :)

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SupremeCommanderServalan · 28/04/2023 16:57

This thread has proved to be really insightful for me, thanks to everyone who has contributed.

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Kyse · 28/04/2023 17:39

SupremeCommanderServalan · 28/04/2023 16:57

This thread has proved to be really insightful for me, thanks to everyone who has contributed.

I've had a great time this afternoon

The only analogy I can give is washing up. I always did the washing up, and complained nobody else did. My manager said "well it doesn't have to be done, there isn't consequences if it isn't"
Realising nobody else was doing it, I stopped
Funnily, consequences happened and everyone is complaining
I asked if anyone had thought about doing the washing up then. Blank faces
Me "oh well"

I am still not doing the washing up!

Officebasedquitter · 28/04/2023 17:52

@kyse this is such a great example of QQ. Well done.

I think we need to keep this as a QQ Anonymous thread for tips and wins! Let’s celebrate doing our jobs well whilst not being taken advantage of.

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mum2jakie · 01/05/2023 20:19

After a relaxing bank holiday weekend, I've decided to apply this tactic to my job, thanks to a manager who is a nightmare to work for. Nothing is good enough and I have finally come to the conclusion that quiet quitting is the way forward. Interesting to discover this thread and discover how common it is.

BeyondMyWits · 01/05/2023 20:31

I QQ my work for 3 months of every year. It is basically a min wage job with extra for training. When min wage goes up there is no extra for training until pay rise time in the summer. So I'm paid the same as an untrained new entrant.

So during those 3 months I do the bare minimum.

Petty, but satisfying.

cupsandcupsoftea · 30/08/2025 21:32

I'm quiet quitting from Monday. Only recently joined but my new place is toxic and causing stress so I'm QQ.

Henry8thHoover · 31/08/2025 07:18

I’m also quiet quitting from tomorrow.
No more going above and beyond for low pay. I’m actually paid with bullying, isolation and micromanaging.

Jaffapedigree · 31/08/2025 08:09

I moved roles within my workplace as I couldn't cope with the stress, only to find out that my new department, which I took a pay cut to join, is incredibly toxic (depending on who's present, as we do shifts). It's like secondary school all over again, but I'm fifty and don't have the patience for this shit.

Plus, I need to learn systems, procedures, etc, but have been told that there's no formal training and everyone learns just by watching others and muddling through. It's a shambles. There's no manager right now, so no one in charge, and it shows. We're all the same rank and pay, but the loud, belligerent ones - who also seem to be the laziest - are always trying to tell everyone else what to do.

Add to this an awful new shift pattern being potentially forced on us, and I'm giving in to quiet quitting. I'm staying for the pay and the pension, so not looking for promotion or exit, but they won't get my full potential.

cupsandcupsoftea · 31/08/2025 13:03

Lets keep checking in here about QQ. I'm done with being micromanaged and also promises that never turn into anything, plus the general itchiness.

cupsandcupsoftea · 31/08/2025 13:04

Bitchiness

anothermerrygoround · 01/09/2025 13:03

I joined my new company 6 weeks ago and the culture is so toxic with the entire team genuinely miserable that I'm QQ until January when I can start applying for jobs again. I intend to do a lot of nodding and smiling whilst desperately trying not to care that I'm not going the extra mile, like I usually would. It's so awful that I can't bear to be there a minute longer than I need to be each day, and even then I'm just so miserable every day. My new manager has no respect for anyone so for the first time in a 25 year career, I'm QQ. Until I saw this thread at 4am (couldn't sleep!) I hadn't put a name to it in my head!

Pippielk · 01/09/2025 23:00

I’ve only being working my allocated hours for the last year - didn’t realise it was called QQ. My manager thinks I should have time to plan and roadmap the teams work for the next 6 months, whereas I can barely keep up with what is happening currently with me team. Get pulled in to random meetings and asks from stakeholders that are always urgent. My manger has no visibility into and who would criticise me for allowing myself to be dragged into it - I have given up and just want to leave before I burn out. Not sure if you would call it a toxic workplace but lack of support from manager makes it feel such.
they try organise quiz’s, team events to boost team moral but on a day to day basis no one goes for a tea/coffee break despite being forced into the office on certain days to collaborate.
cv updated and applied for 2 jobs last week…

cupsandcupsoftea · 19/09/2025 20:22

How's the QQ going? I'm sticking to it amd my life has been less stressful. It's not my company! Although it's against my nature it's working.

Spooky2000 · 20/09/2025 10:58

This is an old thread now, but I'm joining quiet quitting and I havwn't even started the role yet - it starts on Monday.

Throughout the recruitment process I was never told that the training would be hundreds of miles away from where I live and residential over an extended period of time. It'll cost me £300 to pay for this , to have care for my dogs whilst I do it.

I also wasn't told of the location despite asking 3 times. It's got no parking and is 90 mins away by public transport, so adding 3 hours onto my working day. So I'm doing it until something else comes up. I'm out.

cupsandcupsoftea · 20/09/2025 11:52

That sounds more than fair

anothermerrygoround · 20/09/2025 15:39

I'm still trying but before I had a chance it went crazy and I'm now in the process of complaining to HR. I worked until 2am and have been online all day so I guess it's going really badly!

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