My DH has MS and is getting progressively worse - it's likely he will get medical retirement within a year or so. He needs some looking after on his bad days and certainly needs me to run him to the hospital appointments etc.
I am currently pregnant with our second child and am wondering if we'll be better off if i don't return to work after mat leave. at the moment I work 4 days a week (with hour and a half commute each way), have to drop off and pick up DS from nursery, do all the household stuff, do all the diy stuff, manage the finances, help DH look after FIL's affairs as he is in nursing home. I spend all my annual leave taking DH to appointments or for when DS is poorly. No actual holidays at all.
once the baby is here the money will be even tighter and I just wonder if we would all be better off on benefits - I think we would financially - but what about the loss of my career and the way i would feel about being reliant on benefits - not sure how i feel about being at home full time
anyone any experiences in this sort of thing??