which shift pattern would you say was preferable?

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i'm going back to work in a couple of months and am hoping to work one 14.5 hr weekend shift a week and one early shift in a weekday (which day is flexible with dp's work). to do this dp will do a 4-12 midnight shift on the weekday i am working and once a quarter say my mum will cover me on a weekend when dp also has to work.

dp today howover today suggested he does 10hr days to allow for three days off so i could in theory do two 12.5 hr shifts instead. this would be more money abou £150 a month more, but the downside would be him not being around for bedtime 4 nights a week and also me having two days wiped out iyswim? as i would get home at either 8pm or 10pm on the second shift pattern.

if anyone has managed to follow this i'd appreciate your opinions!!

a totally boring topic!!

would say if you can get buy without the £150 stick with the original. IMHO £150 a month now is not worth missing out bedtimes etc. that your DP may look back on with regret in a few years and you'd regret being too tired to enjoy time with your family.

Don't forget to factor in the two of you getting time together. Not sure but option 2 sounds like it might be "ships passing in the night!"

Yes I think the same as both of you! Only problem being that if I don't do the 12.5 hr shift pattern on return to work I will loose the right to do them. So I need to be sure iyswim!