HELP! Gone back to work (3 Dc's) Only 16 hrs a week but can't get on top of anything!

[josben]

Can anyone guide me on how to organise/ be on top of a household once back at work (p/t)
I seem to be doing house hold stuff until late evening (when I should be relaxing with DH) He does need to help more but he is difficult to motivate!

How can I be a Mum who doesn't need 2 hours clearing/ cleaning before a friend comes over for a coffee!

Get everything ready for dc's the night before
Get breakfast table laid night before
Let your standards slide a bit - a bt of dust won't kill you
Don't do housework when dc's are in bed, except loading and unloading washing machine... that way madness lies

good advice lj, I'd add maybe loading or unloading dishwasher to that too (if you have one) bar that, go join him, then get him to assist at weekends!

This is going to sound like Bad Mother territory but depending on the age of your DC's we have a BIG Tidy Up time at the weekend (either day) in the morning for an hour ..with 'prizes' for who does the best job of their bedroom, etc etc...being a Competitive Dad it even gets DP moving!!