Work life balance

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Finding it hard to adjust to being back at work after 3 years. Although my husband is at home with the kids he's finding it quite overwhelming ( under 1 and almost 3) , and I finish work to lots of missed calls from various places all of which need me rather than husband to talk to them. Argh. Tired too.

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Why do the various places need to speak to you and not dh.
My dh works and I'm sahm, I wouldn't expect him to sort out calls when he came in.
Your dh should be doing the majority of house and childcare.
He may find it over whelming but he'll soon get used to it, just like other parents have to.

I’ll unusually sympathetic. The transfer to my bloke being a non working father while I continued to work full time nearly bloody killed us. You have to let go and let him get on with it. If people call you redirect them to him. Don’t whinge and moan about doing two roles because if you ARE doing Two it’s because you’ve allowed it to happen. If theres anything you just can’t stamf him doing (for me it’s washing and checking homework) retain it as your role but make it cleR. Talk to him about your expectations and if you can’t make it work adapt again.

More because I am the authorised person on the phone, password protection etc. Voice passwords such as HMRC.
He has some health issues which makes it a bit harder for him but I'm feeling somewhat overwhelmed. A big adjustment.