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Original poster

Don't like my new job :(

26 replies

Evvy543 · 20/04/2017 07:00

I left my old job for a new job and I'm not keen on it at all.

I'm used to working in a really fast paced environment with a close team.

I find this job boring and no one talks to each other! The most dull group of people I've ever encountered.

I'm really missing my old colleagues :(

Only worked there a few weeks and don't have another job to go to but I feel like quitting already!

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ShotsFired · 20/04/2017 07:40

If it's so bad, what on earth was the attraction at interview stage?

There must have been something to pique your interest and you must have liked the people you met?

I think you may be living a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy here. You think it's bad and now it's bad. Despite the fact you saw an advert, applied for it, went through the entire recruitment process and then accepted the role, presumably because it seemed like an improvement on your previous job?

Polarbearflavour · 20/04/2017 16:26

Give it time and if you still feel this way by the 6 month stage, start looking at other jobs.

bigchris · 20/04/2017 18:50

It takes six months to settle into to a new job, give it a bit more time Flowers

JeanSeberg · 20/04/2017 21:28

I'm in the same position Evvy although for slightly different reasons. I'm trying to put a brave face on and give it time but I just feel tearful, stressed and overwhelmed and like I've made a big mistake.

I feel for you.

Dozer · 20/04/2017 21:31

Does it pay lots more?

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Evvy543 · 22/04/2017 15:47

It pays more and its closer to home so it's convenient.

I keep finishing all my work by lunchtime though so the rest of the day I've got nothing to do but sit and try and find things to pass the time!

I've tried making conversation with the people I work with and I get nothing back at all.

Part of the reason I enjoy working is for the social aspect as well and it's what keeps me going but here no one wants to engage at all.

Its like a library where no one talks :(

I'm used to working hard and having a laugh at the same time so this is a really different dynamic.

I'm going to give it chance as I've got no other options at the moment anyway and I wouldn't want to just leave them in a mess after they've been good enough to offer me the role.

I do feel regretful though :(

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user1485009271 · 23/04/2017 18:13

I could have written your post except I have been in my role for a year-mine was a promotion and I still regret leaving my old role,I told myself I would give it time but I have and it still makes me miserable but I'm short on options-I say give it a few more months and if it isn't better then see what your options are

MrsWhirly · 23/04/2017 22:13

Exactly the same here!

Mine's been 5 months. I loved my old job, but had done it for nearly 10yrs. I had a really horrible but influential boss who made me her deputy, but she would make sure you were only ever her deputy.

Mines a promotion, so more money and a little bit more flexibity. I'm never going to love it, but I'm hoping I'll be really good at it soon and get my lost confidence back.

Another downside is I think I could be vulnerable in the next lot of redundancy which would be awful as my last role was protected. Glutton for punishment much?

Dozer · 23/04/2017 22:15

Good for all of you for having the guts to move though. Scary not having been there long and fearing redundancy, but if that did happen the promotion etc would look good on the CV!

MrsELM21 · 23/04/2017 22:21

This happened to me too, and 2 years on I now love it, it's a big change but actually you get used to the quiet, and then begin to quite like it, I did end up joining a fitness group though to supplement hardly having any work friends any more, but now I'm a stone lighter and have a peaceful working day, stick at it a bit longer and maybe reassess at the 6 month mark

Original poster
Evvy543 · 23/04/2017 22:36

Thanks for everyone's supportive comments.

Xx

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lisara79 · 23/04/2017 22:37

when I left my old job I cried every day for 6 weeks because I missed it so much. I agree with some of the above and think you have to give everything 6 months... I used to go in every day and find one new thing that I liked... for example, the location, a project, aims... better to try and focus on the positives and if you still hate it in 6 months, look for something else. I love my job now!

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Evvy543 · 24/04/2017 09:33

Told them I'm not working at all today and they have been SO rude and very Unsympathetic.

I'm not impressed at all.

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unfortunateevents · 24/04/2017 09:58

Oh dear. I gather from your other thread that you are taking today off because of a family funeral. It isn't clear how many hours they wanted you to go into work for but you have to appreciate that, a few weeks into a new job, you just don't get to TELL them that you are not going in. You are new, they don't know you, you don't enjoy the job and that probably comes across, and things are going to go downhill rapidly.

If you want to keep this job (unclear if you do) I would go in tomorrow, apologise and explain that you were sleep-deprived and upset and would not act like this under normal circumstances, offer to take today as annual leave - if you have accrued any time yet - and assure them that you are committed to the job. If, on the other hand you don't wish to do that, be prepared for things to get more difficult.

Dozer · 24/04/2017 14:07

Did you ask for annual leave?

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Evvy543 · 25/04/2017 06:00

No I didn't.

It's not for me. I really want to quit today.

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Dozer · 25/04/2017 06:56

Very sorry that you've lost someone. But it's annual leave for time off for funerals of extended family or friends.

NormaSmuff · 25/04/2017 07:01

A job is only for the pay. At least you are being paid.
ask for further work.
how can they be sympathetic if you just demand a day off?

Kittykatclaws · 25/04/2017 07:11

Sounds like you have other stressful things on your mind which won't help

Can you look into temping while you find something else? You probably only have to give a week notice whre you are

I'm sorry I'm not suggesting give it six months as that's probably more sensible but I don't want you to end up stuck like me, four years down the line and still hating it but got to a point where it was so close to home I'd need a massive pay jump to cover the petrol costs.

(I find out about an interview this week Grin)

Ankleswingers · 25/04/2017 07:13

I totally see where you are coming from. If you hate it, then don't stay. Simples.

If financially you can afford to leave without another job, then do what you want to do.

I did this many years ago- stuck it out in a horrible company for seven months and then walked out. They were horrible to me and bullied me. Every day. I hated it but foolishly stuck it out.

Good luck Flowers

Letseatgrandma · 25/04/2017 07:15

Told them I'm not working at all today and they have been SO rude and very Unsympathetic.

I doubt most places of work would be sympathetic if a new employee 'told' them they weren't coming to work?!

Tottyandmarchpane1 · 25/04/2017 07:22

I don't mean to be unsympathetic but unless you asked very nicely for the day off then I am not surprised they were rude and unsympathetic. Speaking from the other side for a minute, we have someone like you in our team - clearly doesn't want to be there, likes to chat when others want to get on. It's painful and awkward and you end up wishing they just would leave. They don't owe you a social life, it's a job. Unless you can afford to leave I would grow up, pull yourself together and get on with it. You accepted the job. And actually if you try and enjoy it a bit more you might find you make friends - there'll be lots going on that you probably aren't invited to because it's obviously you don't want to be there.

Tottyandmarchpane1 · 25/04/2017 07:24

And I cannot imagine that if you have a civilised and pleasant chat with your manager, say that you really enjoy the job (pretend!) but have finished your work by lunchtime that they would not give you something else to do.

scaryclown · 25/04/2017 07:52

If they are poor at being friendly, ie poor social and emotional skills, then they are unlikely to be able to muster up the kind of professionalism that would allow them to be overtly kind and understanding about you having a day off so don't sweat it.

If the culture is a mismatch, its better to identify it as that, than get to the stage where you think you are in the wrong. You could try altering your interpretation of their behaviour from 'poor friendliness' to try to think of it as 'quite consideration'. ..

but looking for another job with a better cultural fit might be the best option.

scaryclown · 25/04/2017 07:57

Also bear in mind that when you've had a death close to you, you will be interpreting things differently - I moved out of a flat I really loved living in when a family member got ill and I suddenly felt it wasn't working as a place to live - I look back and realise that it was because all my decision-making was affected by the loss, I just didn't realise it. A friend of mine had a miscarriage, thought it hadn't affected her, and ended a very good relationship because her interpretations all went very negative.

I think you should be aware of that too, and take care of yourself for a bit.