It's been agreed that I'll work 8am - 5.45pm Mon-Thurs and have Friday (I hope, tbc) off but will still be paid a full time salary since I'm spreading my working hours over 4 days. AND I still get my full holiday allowance AND I will save c£200 a month in childcare costs, god it's wonderful.
It's on a trial basis but I will make it work and my team have told me they'll do whatever it takes to make sure it's ok and we succeed in the trial period.
Thanks to bossykate especially for her comments about women needing to stick their heads above the parapets and ask for it in order to get what they want and to change things.
So I get to spend one day a week with dd (who is 3) and being able to collect ds from school and let him have friends to tea etc. grin]grin]